[Getting back on the horse ... how long to wait after herpes outbreak to have sex?]

Ok. I am curious- this is my first outbreak - how long do I need to wait after it clears to resume sexual relations-- and subsequent outbreaks - it may be premature to think about such things but it is a question in my mind.

[I had the herpes talk. And he said....]

So happy for U! I am still waiting on the dust to settle on my important relationships. Fingers are crossed. I haven't been told I was gross or disgusting or anything like that yet. So that's a good sign. Lol. (This is me being me- not being insensitive - just saying) you seem to have a keeper. Maybe I will too!!! If not now then in the future! Thank you for sharing!

[Just diagnosed with herpes - have some unanswered questions.]

I totally feel your pain. Unfortunately I have hsv2. But my for lab outbreak was very very small - smaller than a dime- I checked - I mean how else will I know what this looks like -- ok I thought I was careful. I checked visually before sex and condoms and asking the questions prior. But well still got it. Made my calls when my results came in. So I did my part so to speak. I mean I believe one of the men I was with game me this - now I am scared I have given it to others. - I am the atypical promiscuous girl - no judgment zone right?! - it is what it is--- this place has helped me already. Just saying. And I hope I we can both find more support here.

 

Hugs and good luck!

 

[Hsv2 and military]

I thank u for that response. I am totally stressed. I've dropped 5 pounds this week. I am trying to make myself eat but well I am nauseated all the time too. I don't feel it's drug related tho. Just stress. When things come into my mind my heart rate goes up and I get that sick to my tummy feeling. So it stress ---

 

Ok- he swears they test for herpes and HIV. But everything I have read says they check for hiv - and do a physical exam. He is still dealing and not talking to me which makes me soooo scared. He is very important to me - I can deal with never having sex with him again but It will hurt if I lose my friend too.

 

Thank u for your thoughts.

 

[Hsv2 and military]

I can't seem to find info out there. So maybe someone here can give clear info. I may have given this to a man who is enlisted in the guard. It is his love per se. If he caught this from me. Does anyone know what the military stand point is? I was told that he would be medically discharged but I have also read that the military tests don't check for it and unless u are unable to perform duties while in outbreak then you are clear. I would like to have a little more peace of mind about this. Help...

[First herpes outbreak mild ... questions]

Thank you both. I appreciate those comments. I am so scared and embarrassed. I called everyone I came I to contact with (sexual contact I mean) in the last month or so and I got some freaked out responses but all were thankful I told them. Yes I am - correction have been- pretty promiscuous - I know - shame on me - anyway--- my girlfriend and "boyfriend" are dealing with being exposed - I don't know what to do for them. I don't think anything will work at this point. I am praying I don't lose them both - then I will be alone thru this. I am depressed and scared.

[First herpes outbreak mild ... questions]

ok here goes nothing-- Last week I noticed a small rub burn spot on my vagina - I thought nothing of it- having had some pretty rough sex earlier in the week before. I had a scheduled GYN apt that week so when I went the doc looked at it said it may be herpes - I wanted it tested he said it was expensive I said so do the test--- so here I am a week later and the results are in -- I tested positive for HSV2- now my OB was smaller than a dime and lasted less than a week- hardly painful except when urine touched it - I have had canker sores more bothersome and this is my first OB which I read was typically the most severe..... I am confused-----maybe I have a mild case? is that possible? ok I have a girlfriend as well as men I have sex with. are there any members who have a female partner without the virus? can I perform orally on her without as much risk?

[H Buddies, unite!]

Ok. I am super new at all of this. Bring diagnosed today! Happy hsv day to me ... I would like a friend somewhat locally who has been dealing with this for a while. I am involved with a male ans female couple - probably not anymore but it is what it is- I love in the little rock arkansas area I am a 38 year old female - gender not important