itsgabby

Hello so recently ive gotten together with one of my coworkers after a year of crushing on him from afar. I knew we'd be perfect together but I let my herpes hold me back from getting close to him. After talking to a close friend (also coworker) he told me he sees how we are together and KNOWS he wouldnt care. So after that pep talk I started hanging out with said boy one on one. We hungout alot for 2 weeks then he kissed me and things started heating up. I finally got the courage to tell him before we had sex or anything close to it. I told him I had an STI and i take medication for it daily. He said ok what precautions should i take. I told him condoms and honesty. I asked if he had anymore questions and he said no. Fast forward to 3 weeks later, weve had sex a couple times all of which wearing protection. We had sex last night 2 times and I woke up this morning with 2 bumps that MAY be the beginning of an outbreak and a slightly sore throat. Im so scared of him contracting it. He doesnt seem to give a sh!t about my STI as he never even asked what it was and when i told him it was a 2% chance of him getting it he said "oh even if u said 78% chance id be like ok ill wear 2 condoms. i like you too much for this to matter". How do I talk to him further about this issue especially since im almost positive he most of come in contact with this occuring outbreak?

I found out 9 months ago I had gotten genital herpes from my THEN boyfriend. I had been through a lot with him. I had gotten an abortion about 1 month ago, he dumped me 2 days after the procedure. It was crushing. Although we we're fighting and it was for the best in the end, It was horrible how it ended. He dumped me over text, his clothes sat on my porch up until 2 days ago and I have yet to get my things. He all of a sudden was done with me so quickly. There is a lot more to the story and it gets much bleaker but, you get the point, it was indeed a horrible time in my life and I'm just at the cusp of a new beginning it seems. I'm not hurt about this anymore I am proud to say, It doesn't bother me as I have been going to therapy, making better choice of friends and (now) moving on. Just want to put some background to my success story as it can help those who think they're at the bottom of hell looking up at the heavens. I used to have casual sex with this guy 2 years ago, We always had a little thing for each other but never anything romantic. Fast forward to now. He is best friend's with my best friend's boyfriend. Perfect, right? Any ways so my best friend told me he was still interested in me. One problem, Herpes! My friend didn't know how he would react to the news if she had told him but, I told her to tell him regardless and for him to do his research. Today, I get a text from my friend saying another one of my "friends" was trying to egg him on to reject and that I wasn't worth the risk. My best friend's boyfriend doing the same. He had the facts right in front of him, statistics and what not. He ultimately decided I was worth the risk and not just once but apparently "for the rest of his life if he has to". Obviously an exaggeration but you get the gist (; I went over his house and he instantly snatches me from off his bed and onto his lap, kissing me in front of everyone. When everyone left, He pulled out a rubber and well... you can guess what came next pun intended. And then round 2 later on. He even went down on me! As for that friend that was not looking out for my best interest after me confiding many of times in her about how hard it is with herpes to move on, the feeling of unworthiness, perpetual filth and rejection, I gave her a piece of my mind as well as some very choice words (: She said sorry but there is no room in my life for someone that is so selfish and insensitive! Plain and simple. Your life will move on after herpes, after your breakup, after whatever you are going through! It's all about your mindset and how you take things. Being shameful of herpes is only going to limit you. People knowing you have herpes will not change the reality of the situation that you indeed do have herpes. Being open about it will only up your possibilities to finding future loves and accepting individuals. It will as well show you who the snakes are in your life and you must do something about those people or else you will be in a vicious cycle of suffering and ridicule. You are worthy and lovable. YOU must know that within yourself because no amount of outside love will turn your mind on to this way of thinking. Goodluck to you all, I hope you find that inner happiness that everyone deserves!

@WCSDancer2010 I read somewhere gential herpes is usually H2 that's why i am just 'assuming' so until i get my culture back. i have very severe blisters not only in the labia but around my vagina. The gyno said it was a "classic case of herpes". Also my guy friend just told me he looked at images online of herpes and said he had an outbreak a while ago thinking it was only ingrown hairs and brushed it off... which is now a little red flag for me that he could of been hiding this either out of denial or fear of my reaction /: so I'm almost positive at this point.. i have contracted it from him

Also @WCSDancer2010 it is pretty evident it is H2, when I was first diagnosed, there weren't any sores. The skin just appeared to be raw which I thought was from sex but my gland near my crotch was very sore, my labia was swollen at least double the size. The doctor seemed absolutely positive it was H. The day after sores began to appear and not only in the inside of my labia but also next to my vagina. She did get a culture done but I haven't heard back yet!

Thank you @WCSDancer2010 !! I know it doesn't have to do with promiscuous behavior but he even said 'the things is, I probably gave it to you' so that kind of supports my theory although I don't care regardless. Should I tell him to get tested as soon as possible or should I tell him to wait it out? If he got it from me, which I am positive he has it considering we had sex the day before I got my first break out numerous times, wouldn't it take some time to show up in a test?

Hi, Im gabby. I am only 18 years old, Ive had sex with 7 people which now in hindsight is shameful but regret is something I don't indulge in. I found out 2 days ago I have gentile herpes. I have been having sex with one of my good friends (him and only him for the past couple of months) that I've know for years. I thought my vagina was infected from getting a cut during rough sex as I thought it was just swollen (there weren't visible sores till now). so I went to the gyno to get it checked, my gyno asked if she could bring a student in with her for experience, not expecting to be absolutely devastated I said yes. The look on both their faces when they told me I had herpes will forever be burned into my memory. Anyways, after many tears, breaking the news to my mom and having to tell her a lot of things that no mother should have to hear, I had to face the fact I was going to have to disclose to my friend that I have been diagnosed with gential herpes. His birthday was a couple of days ago and on the day of learning what I had contracted he was having a gathering at his house to celebrate. I was absolutely distraught just thinking about how I was even going to whisper the word herpes to him. He is known to be promiscuous so I believe I have contracted it from him but I didn't tell him that was what I was thinking. So I go to his house, start drinking, get drunk and he begins moving his hand up my thigh towards the hell storm going on in my panties SOOOOO, I took his hand and said "I need to talk to you and this isn't good... at all." He takes me over behind his garage. I tell him about the doctor and then "She told me I have herpes." His eyes widened and he was obviously in shock. I grabbed his face and said "We made the decision to not wear condoms, we cannot point fingers at who gave it to who and god knows you might not have it!" He was so understanding and told me "gabby, It doesn't change the fact that you are you. I appreciate you as a person and you are not in this alone." I told him I'd go with him to get him tested. He let me sleep at his house, he still told me I was beautiful and couldn't keep his hands off me even though I felt like a walking disease. It brought us closer. If I have anything to say to anyone learning they have any herpes, if you disclose to someone and they reject you, THEY AREN'T WORTH YOUR TIME! Think of it as they are saving you time as the relationship between you and said person would have not prospered into anything either way. You must be honest and the person you are telling must realize the level of comfort, courage, trust and caring motives that are behind what you are telling them. Tell them to at least be respectful towards you and not spread the word or act childish about a very serious virus. I hope you all find peace within yourselves as I am trying to now.