h1gal

Thank you!

WCSDancer2010, I noticed in a couple other posts you mention a couple scripts you've prepared. I've seen the H2 one, but haven't stumbled on the H1. Can you send it, or a link to it? Thanks.

Thanks to you both. While my questions are detailed and analytical, my fears and shame are like everyone else. I am terrified to have a discussion I never thought I would have to have again. I didn't even realize how much shame was still there until I started contemplating dating again. I spent years feeling unlovable. And even un f###able. I now realize the few relationships I've allowed myself to have were based on those feelings. Thinking I was lucky anyone would want me. Putting up with issues and behaviors I shouldn't have. I want things to be different , and I'm hoping good information will be a start.

A little background... I was diagnosed with genital herpes many years ago. At the time, the doctor told me it didn't really matter which type (1 or 2), and I'm not sure if they even had tests then to tell the difference. At any rate, I assumed H2 as that's what the doctor assumed. Fast forward to 8 years ago when I was pregnant, they gave me a blood test which said H1. Good news, I guess, but it didn't really impact my life as I was married and had disclosed long ago. So, now I'm divorced and getting back into dating. I've met someone and things are progressing. And I'm trying to get my facts straight for the disclosure talk. My first question is, does anyone know the primary source for these transmission rates and asymptomatic shedding rates on the disclosure sheet? I see those stats elsewhere, but I don't truly know where they came from originally. Question 2 is about the transmission rates. I see 4% for F>M. But since the asymptomatic shedding rate for genital H1 is about 1/5 that of genital H2, can I reasonably say that the transmission rate/risk is less than 1% (about 0.8%, and 0.4% with condoms)? If so, is there any other data to back this up? Last question, I know that about 80% of people already have H1, most likely orally. And I've read that provides some protection against getting H1 again genitally. Does anyone know of any data about that? I haven't seen any real facts/figures. I am an analytical person, as is he. I haven't had any symptoms in over a decade. I want to paint the most positive picture I can during this discussion, but I also want to be accurate. Any help with the reality and/or the math would be appreciated.