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Thank you everyone for your words of wisdom and your feedback. For all of you who contracted this ugly virus from a lying sociopath YOU HAVE ZERO RESPONSIBILITY! You have no more responsibility for contracting this than a woman has for being raped while drunk. It is 100% the infected individual's responsibility to disclose. Condoms don't count as HSV is not spread soley by body fluids, nor only when there is an open sore. There is shedding too. And agreed that the medical system is broken. I too asked for a full STD panel and HSV wasn't tested. I had no idea I had to ask for this separately and just believed everything was fine when the nurse called to tell me everything was fine--I has no STDs. What a farce. And what's even more tragic is I have no Legal recourse even though this person has medical records and prescriptions showing she had HSV for 20 years prior to being with me. And I did ask beforehand. She lied. But I CAN'T prove that I DIDN'T already have it (I didn't) so no attorney will touch it. Complete and utter travesty. And the worst part is there's no way to stop her and she knows it. Hence, her comment: "that's not my fucking problem" when I told her she infected me. I know no one has a good answer as what to do, how to deal with this (other than acceptance and forgiveness). But I will never accept what she's done nor forgive her.

She doesn't know how she got it. Slept with dozens of guys in college. Found out she had it over 20 years ago. Just passes it on. I've spoke with several civil attorneys and two prosecutors. Won't touch it b/c there is no "win". (i.e. it costs too much to prosecute and/or she's insolvent so it costs to much to sue civilly). It's a travesty. Thank you for your advice and support!

The person I received HSV-2 from knew she had it for 20+ years, she does not use protection and doesn't care that she transmits it. When I was diagnosed and confronted her, she admitted she had it then said "that's not my f*ck*ng problem" referring to my NEW problem. She has potentially infected dozens of people over a 20 year period. After talking with some of these individuals, they did not have HSV-2 prior to being with her, but experienced outbreaks and other medical issues right after being with her. The law in most States says that it is illegal to purposefully transmit an infectious disease and the perpetrator can be prosecuted by law. The burden is on the HSV-2 individual to disclose, not the victim to ask (legally speaking). Issue? No one will enforce the law! Unless someone can show a direct line (i.e. test negative, have sex with her, test positive) then it's virtually impossible to prosecute and most prosecutors don't want to touch it. I know b/c I spoke to several. How to stop her? Is there some way to legally send her a "cease and desist" letter? I know that sounds drastic, but it's as if she revels every time she infects someone. (She's insolvent so going after her civilly is out.) Help!!!!!