[I have herpes. So why would a man choose me?]

@Lisa I feel the same way. Feel free to message me if you ever want to chat!! Let's maintain hope together!!

[I have herpes. So why would a man choose me?]

@sickoflifelessons thank you so much for sharing that, really helped me a lot today. @WSCDancer2010 thank you!! One of your best posts yet!! And you have a lot of great ones!!!

 

[First real herpes disclosure ... first real rejection?]

I agree @WCSDancer2010 !!

[First real herpes disclosure ... first real rejection?]

OK, I finally got around to reading the "Fuck yes!" article. I did like it. However, I do think that sometimes it can take some time to know if you are "Fuck yes!" For example, this most recent guy I dated, he was asking me out for TWO months!! I rejected him over and over again. I had already judged him before I'd really gotten to know him or given him a chance. I finally agreed to a date, and once I gave him that chance and really got to know him...I was absolutely crazy about him!! There is something to be said for persistence gentleman. Now, granted he ended up rejecting me due to H, which obviously...he wasn't in the long run "Fuck yes!" about me but if I had lived strictly by this article I would never have given him a chance in the first place.

[Back ache related to herpes?]

Definitely @Sil88, most people say that it fades.

[First real herpes disclosure ... first real rejection?]

@threelittlebirds I posted this a few days ago but it didn't post for some reason. I just wanted to say thank you for your encouragement and I will take your advice!

[Back ache related to herpes?]

@Sil88 I've only had one OB so far, and I definitely had pain in my foot and rear prior to it. It is a very strange feeling and was actually very similar to when I had a bulging disk a few years ago. So, I could see the back pain being related.

[Newly single, worried about the future]

@Seeker I'd like to throw my hat into your dating ring also ;) lol

[First real herpes disclosure ... first real rejection?]

I can relate @threelittlebirds. I am still having such a difficult time with this. I am a beautiful, intelligent, loving, and caring person inside and out and I can't stop feeling that I am permanently tainted. I have lost my sparkle, fire, and confidence. My ex- boyfriend claims that he didn't know that he was a carrier. I have my suspicions, but that is beside the point I guess. I have been reading this site for some time and I have mixed feelings about some of the things said on here. I guess I decided to post today because I am facing my second rejection. I really liked this guy. And he doesn't even know his status and has decided he just can't. It stings very badly, and I'm feeling like if he cannot accept this, who would? Before this happened to me, it would have been a deal breaker for me. I would love an H buddy. It would be great to have a male (just might make me feel better that there are men out there living with this and actually be able to talk to them), but I would also love talking with a female.