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@WCSDancer2010 I basically told him fear of transmission should be a non-issue because the risk is so low. I wish I could follow my own advice! I think it's the fear of having transmitted it in the past....ugh! I did tell him the risk is significantly reduced by antivirals (about ~50%) and condoms (about ~50%). Honestly after I disclosed I asked him if he had any questions and he said he had none. I felt like it was going to be way more of a discussion, but he just said it wasn't a problem for him. Haha....not at all what I was expecting!!! Wow....never passed it on! That's incredible! Thanks for sharing....makes me feel loads better. :)

Hey all, I've been taking it really slow with this great guy and disclosed my status to him a few days ago. He didn't bat an eye...I was stunned! We had some drinks and went back to his place and ended up having sex. Now, I'm on antiviral therapy but we didn't stop to put on a condom. Unfortunately it was a mixture of the heat of the moment and alcohol. I find myself really regretting that we didn't use one. If I infect him, I don't know if I could forgive myself. I infected somebody else before when I wasn't on antivirals, and the guilt was overwhelming. That happened the same year I was infected by my "giver" AND I wasn't on medication. 4-5 years later I am on antivirals. No reoccurrences since the initial outbreak. I know the risk is low but I am so worried. If he calls/texts me and says he isn't feeling well, I might just panic. Help???

@WCSDancer2010 Interesting video, but unfortunately it cut off as the guy started to talk about HSV-1....he talked a lot about HSV-2 and how slim the chances are of it being established in the mouth. But he said HSV-1 is "another story" and the clip cut off. :(

Hello everyone! I have a question. I'm a 23 year old female. I was diagnosed with HSV-1 while in a monogamous relationship with a partner who was prone to cold sores. Of course I didn't know this could give me genital herpes. Years later, I have had no reoccurrences since my initial outbreak. I am on acyclovir daily. I'm back in the dating pool now and have been frustrated while trying to research safe oral sex. I know to use condoms and intend on continuing my antivirals. But if a non-infected potential partner asks about oral sex I really have no idea what to say. Can I not have oral sex? Can I not receive oral sex? As a woman, this is a little concerning since I can't just jump into intercourse (at least if I want to enjoy it). Anybody have any advice?