hawazin

I read someplace that Western Blot HSV-1 has only 93% accuracy over HerpesSelect's 91% So is it worth it for the peace of mind? Also, this was the FIRST time she has real sex, and the only time we had sex. She got stomach nausea a few days after. A stange flu-like illness a 45 days later, and then this outbreak about 75 days later...weird...

about three years ago I received unprotected oral sex. Two weeks later I suddenly felt a sharp pain in back of my right testicle. It grew worse in four days...I was diagnosed with epididymitis and I was given doxycycline, it cleared away, but sometimes returns about twice a year, and I've noticed that the area doesn't handle pressure as well as it used to. It will stay there until I relax the area. Fast forward to last summer, I had sex (both oral and genital) with my fiancee (my other post), and she developed GHSV-1 two months later (and eventually left me because of it). I'm pretty confident she did not cheat on me, this was her first time having sex aside from a molestation in her childhood twenty years ago. I did my own tests (herpeselect igg) and I was negative for everything. HSV-1 (0.15) and HSV-2 (0.23). This is hard to believe because asking around, it turns out my mom, my sister and two of my roommates all have oral HSV-1. I share hookah pipes with my roommates sometimes too. I am traumatized by the event, unsure how I can have sex again without this happening (this is my first full-on intercourse), and unsure if I have HSV-1 and if so, where. How can I be sure? How accurate is Western Blot for HSV-1? I heard it's not that much either.

Thank you WCSDancer2010 for your words, they do make me feel better and more clear about what to do :) :) thanks to all the wonderful people who posted here as well

@inka Thank you dear, yes I told her, but she did not respond. @caterpillarmonarch Thank you, I know. She always had an irrational temper, and you could never win an argument when she's like this. but she usually calms down. @WCSDancer2010 Your words put serenity on my heart. I do feel like that sometimes and I realize logically it might be best, but after a while I begin to miss her again. She was my first childhood love, and I associate all purity and innocence to her, she still is innocent in a way, the way she loves and hates things irrationally. The thing is, I know what she's like. She is extremely sensitive and when she doesn't like something there's no consoling her until she calms down. It might sound bad, but to be honest it was never really a big problem as it doesn't happen often. So I'm just wondering if one day, months later, if she will calm down, and if I can reach out then. or will it be too late then. It's this 'hope' that i have that torments me. Because I know that she loves me (she said that herself when she was breaking up with me) She was diagnosed with both, and she told me it "came back positive", I am not sure which though, by the point I got more educated about herpes she was not talking to me. Her outbreak was painful and apparently has never happened before.

It started October 1. She told me she wants to end things October 11. She told me it's definitely over October 19. and then she stopped talking. I've been trying to text her all this time, never a response. never picking up the phone. then she blocked me on everything. then I tried to talk to her mom November 14, and she told it's been long over. at this point I gave her my ring back, and they sent mine just this Monday. so now it's officially over. But I don't know, I still feel knowing her, that she just needs time to accept this, but after this, will she be able to "forgive" me, she knows I didn't know, she's convinced I gave it to her though, even though my tests are negative.

I am terribly sorry about this ShaeShae. Thanks for your support, in my case I'm just dumbfounded because this is my fiancee who I was planning my life with, and who just 5 days before the incident was crying because she was simply contemplating life for one day being without me. it's just bizarre. I think she (being extremely sensitive) did go into such a deep depression over this (which she blames on me) and I am just wondering if I should wait and contact her a few months later or what she did was inexcusable, just how long does it take for someone with GHSV1 to adjust on average?

I have been engaged for over six months, our relationship was strong and healthy, and our love was mutual. suddenly my fiancee got a genital ulcer. She was informed at the STD clinic that she has GHSV1, and she became completely hysterical. She blamed me for ruining her life and her future, and decided to break off the engagement 10 days later. Adding that she "couldn't stand the thought of me touching her ever again". This was 2 months ago. I've never had any symptoms all my life. I did test and I got negative results, although it looks like 1 out of 10 people have undetectable antibody levels. I am incredibly depressed and I do not know what to do, is this a justified reaction? Should I give her some time to come to terms with this thing? How much? Should I forget about her and move on?