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Thanks Guys for clearing it up for me! As I far as I know you can get herpes on your eye or finger so what the hell is the fuss... I think I read somewhere that by 50 and over 90% of the population have hvs 1 so we should get some decent education on this and realise ur most likely going to get hvs 1 and that ironically enough someone with genital is actually ur safest bet in terms of transmission. So my call ion the bullshit to this stigma is official !!

Ok i may be wrong here or misinformed and in that case feel free to correct me. Well when I had my first OB i had to be hospitalized and the doctor literally new nothing - I mean he didn't even know about shedding.So I went to the clinic and got tested for everything and the results came back as GHSV 1. Anyway more to the point maybe I'm wrong here but since something like 80% have the virus orally your most likely going to contract in some shape or form in your life time. Well anyway this is the part that's causing me utter confusion but genital HSV1 literally sheds 3-5 % and without any proper proper protection been taken while orally its like 9-18%. Realistically since most people have or will have the virus they have a level of immunity to it and then when you add anti viral and condoms to the mix the chance of passing it on is so low is like point nothing of a per cent (im still well aware there is a chance even though very small of passing it on both orally and genitally) So this part where I feel like someone needs to correct me but isn't better having genital HVS1 better then orally in terms of passing it on yet everyone is freaking out about it. I'm not using this as a justification to not disclosing because right now i think it just makes the bullshit of the stigma even higher when its nearly laughable at this sage because who here has used protection for oral sex. So I'm right to call a complete bullshit on this stigma.

Thanks for all the comments guys.. Is not that I'm looking for a relationship or desperately wanting one it is just when I found out the first thing that came to my mind is that I couldn't. I guess is just that b4 I caught this and got educated about it I know what my perception would have been. I guess I'm just really struggling to believe someone as young as me will be understanding r want to take the risk when they can simrply be with someone else whose clean.. Also @dancer I'm slightly confused by your comment, did you mean the stigma less r greater in America compared to Ireland

Hi I've just had my first outbreak and it was agony and had to be hospitalised. I'm waiting for test to come back to see which type I am. I've had one sexual partner, he knew he was my first but I was aware I wasn't his first and I'm 19. We were safe and used protection but I still got herpes. I'm beyond upset. All I've done is research this online and I'm well aware of how this Sti won't be a physical problem however psychologically alls I can think about us how no guy my age r for the next few years will ever want to be with me and take the risk. I know it's extremely low at 1% with condoms and anti vitals and it's more likely they'll get it from someone who is isn't aware they have it. However I live in Ireland and I notices this website a lot of the people r American and I feel like the stigma isn't as strong there and I've also read a lot if the success disclosures stories but yet again I feel like the people are a lot older and r American where people r more liberal ... Please help me I'm really struggling with this and feel like a huge amount of possible happiness has been taken away from me