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Well sure enough. She got her blood test back and it was positive, meaning she's had it long enough to build up the antibodies for a positive result. I haven't got my blood work done and don't know if I will. We're both understanding and supportive and I really don't want to play the blame game.. I know it's not about the number of partners at all and seeing as how she's an incredibly attractive/sexual female odds aren't in my favor so I'm wondering and looking for reassurance that as long as we both understand nothing is going to change anything should I just leave well enough alone and go on about my life? Or am I going to be stuck with unwarranted accusations or guilt on both our ends? My gut tells me to just be.. Just move on and learn the "new normal"

She's an amazing person the way she's been handling it. Albeit hard as fuuu and mentally/emotionally draining. For the both of us. When she goes in for a blood test what exactly are we looking for? I don't want the blame to fall anywhere but if hers are a specific level what do those mean? What would I be looking for if I have contracted it recently? So much information to take in

Well. I disclosed. And after a whole lot of tears on both parts and a lot of "who did you fuck/cheat on me with" "I don't understand" "I'm in shock" most of it boiled down to "it'll be okays" "I'm here with you's" "you mean so much more to me than that's" she still wanted to have sex with me. Protected this time of course. I couldn't bring myself to fully commit despite pleasing her,.. I just don't feel like I'm un deserving. Or incapable.. I feel like damaged goods. Yesterday's trash. Before it was so passionate and committed. Now, undeserving and dirty. Like I'm no good for anyone. Even the woman who still loves me and wants to figure things out and work with things. I thought it would make things easier disclosing, but now I have so much more on my plate

@WCSDancer2010 that really helped put things into perspective. Thank you. And @Sill88 I know you didn't mean any harm. Just not in the best mood these days for obvious reasons.

Not sure if that helps at all but alright.

That "initial shock" it's what's killing me.

Another stupid question maybe? Can genital hsv2 be transferred simply by kissing? I mean have I litterally lost out on any affectionate future with my partner iffff she is not infected as well?? Ugh. Pardon my ignorance and impatience on finding reliable information.

I can assure you he won't be getting anywhere near there, thank you for putting a spin of humor on things. I guess I'm just really confused on how in the hell this happened. Uninformed and scared. My life changed and I have no idea how or where to go from here. Now I have to figure out how to "disclose" as its called

Thank you @WCSDancer2010. You've helped quite a bit. I've got a lot of figuring out to do I guess. I don't want the blame to fall anywhere, I just want it to feel better.. Emotionally I'm a mess. It sucks and it's a terrible time of year for all of this. How at risk will I be putting my son in this mess now? Avoid sharing drinks? Separate towels? I guess I have a lot of educating and figuring out to do. Any more links to information or personal knowledge is highly appreciated.

I just don't understand. So lost, so confused. So everything. I haven't slept with anyone else for over a year, closer to a year and a half or more. I took her word for it when she told me she hasn't either. Can it really lay dormant for so long?!!?? She's a very sexual person and I know about her past very well. Her sex drive is an addiction and this is going to devastate her even more so than she already is, ptsd, all the great life stress, relationship stress etc.. I don't know how to delicately break this news to her without it going terribly. Especially during Christmas/the new year we wanted and needed a fresh start so bad. She's said she's been tested before me but I guess if you don't specifically ask for the h test you don't get it? Should I be concerned she's been hiding this from me? Ugh. My head is so confused right now. Depression was already at an all time low and now this.

So I'm not sure where to start. I'm a 29 year old male, have been in an exclusive relationship for over a year and was just diagnosed via a swab test receiving my results yesterday afternoon. After some rough unprotected sex with my partner I developed what I thought was just a "rug burn" type sore at the base/shaft. Thought nothing of it until a couple of "pimple" like sores in the same area. Devastated and worried I made an appointment at my local PPH for as soon as I could get it. My paranoid hypochondriac self feared the worse until the doctor saw me. Three days after my initial scare she was convinced it was nothing but a "rug burn" injury from my encounter. This put me at ease quite a bit but also knew I could be receiving a call with positive results, I of course didn't want to believe it actually could be H for I couldn't imagine how I could contract it. My girlfriend is very loyal and so am I. But then the call. How could this happen?? HSV2!? Really!? I'm devastated and lost and don't know where to begin. Me and my S/O had sex Friday Saturday and Sunday unprotected while I was waiting for my results (tested weds, told I'd have an answer by Friday IF it was positive) come Friday night nothing so I took my doctors assurance that she was pretty positive it was not H. Monday afternoon comes around and bam. I got the call. How could this have happened?! I really doubt she's been unfaithful and I know I haven't. Now I am so scared I have given this to her, or she's given it to me and doesn't know!? Could one of us have had HSV1 without knowing and transferred it oral/genitally to HSV2? I've been trying to educate myself but Im at a loss and have no idea what to do, how to approach her, etc. I just need some help from people in similar situations, experiences, anything. I know she's immediately going to think I've been unfaithful, she's going to be devastated, we've been through so much in this past year and were so looking forward to having a new year to start over, a fresh start. And now this. Merry effing Christmas