extremelyparanoid

@whitedaises - thanks, will do. @Dancer - Glad to see you noticed my post. I was aware of everything you've said thus far, I of course know that any occassion of unprotected sex warrants a risking venture with an STD. What I didn't know is that 80% of people 'have one kind of herpes or another'? What? I thought it was more so around 1 in 3 people in America.. @lovelucky and HBased. I don't see how this pertains much, seems like you just redirected me to a satrical post that begins every worried statement with 'Hey faggot'. I'm deliberately missing the point because it seems rather offensive to continue reading, other than that anyone having sex with anyone that has herpes has a chance of contracting it. Uh. That genius, Dan. I'll make it clear that I know there *is* a chance. I was just -also- hoping mine would be incredibly slim.

Thank you to the both of your for your opinions, it saddens me to hear that I have been exposed, but that was of course obvious. I've just never heard anyone else tell me specifically. We've discussed the fact that we probably shouldn't have sex if I'm not comfortable with the risk, even with every security measure being taken. I did this a few days before posting this discussion. I still don't seel any symptoms, while urinating or observing my skin, but I know that doesn't guarentee me in the clear. I've been trying to keep my mind off the situation, because frankly, I don't have a car, and have just moved, so I also do not have a doctor. I'm just a recently graduated teenage boy living in his grandparent's home. I wouldn't be able to ask them for a ride to some anonymous clinic. Looks like I'm on my own for now as far as testing until I make a few good friends..maybe the girl in question would even be willing to drive me. We'll see..

Thank you for showing me in this post that this community is alive and supportive, as I don't have anyone else to turn to. At this point, I don't know what's to become of my future, but I hope I can reflect as positively as you have someday. Be well.

To anyone reading this, thank you for your time and consideration about my humble story, as I try and investigate whether or not I have this virus. About a week ago, I became friends with a woman and we started to casually flirt and have intercourse. Before we engaged sexually, she told me that she has HSV 2 or Herpes 2. She explained to me that she received the virus through a course of a tragic event involving unconsensual sex with multiple males. She has known of having the virus for as much as a year, and has seen as many as two doctors about having contracted it. She is currently taking medicine for Herpes, via taking two capsules a day. Now, during the time of our sexual relationship, we have had sex on four ocassions. The first occassion was with a condom, as I was understandably worried that I might contract HSV 2 from her. After about two days, we had sex again, but this time without a condom. I chose to not wear a condom because she told me that she had had multiple partners after knowingly having Herpes, and that she has kept in touch with all of them; devulging over small talk that they are not infected and have been tested over this time. However, I am aware that Herpes can take as long as years to even begin to show symptoms and possibly be tested as being positive. Additionally, after this second time, we had sex a third time with a condom, the next without, and then she performed oral sex on me, but does not have oral Herpes. I am not sure if I could have still contracted it orally regardless of if she has it or not. So let me detail this simply; 2 occassions without a condom, two with, and one occassion or oral sex. During one of these occassions, I observed that she had small razor bumps on her genitalia, as well as pimple marks on and around her butt, which she assured me was simply bumps from shaving and the later being normal acne. She also assured me that she was not in pain, was not having an outbreak, and had took her medicine on all the days we were involved. I am aware of the concept of 'shedding', meaning that it is likely to contract herpes regardless of if she was showing symptoms or not. Concerning the bumps and acne, she assured me that she would know via pain if she were experiencing an outbreak, but I have done my own research and know that due to shedding and the fact that there is a percentage of shedding occuring (10% I read), that I still could have contracted the virus, even though she took her medicine, even if I were wearing a condom or not. It has only been about a week, if not less than that, and I know I am supposed to wait anywhere from two weeks to two months. But please. I am scared. I am not experiencing any burning sensations, and have razor bumps myself from trying to shave hurriedly and carelessly. I have been tested before on two separate occassions for STD's and have come up clean. I know my chances are as slim as being engaged in a car crash on a daily travel, to which I have experienced. So to say that my chances are that slim, when I have experienced those same slim chances, worries me. Nobody wants herpes. She most of all has reminded me of that on several occassions. I need some support right now and some opinions. I know I'll have to physically go and get tested to know for sure, but can anyone offer any information of comfort besides what I have listed or some insight? It would be astoundingly appreciated in this dark time. I am thinking of ending our sexual relationship, which I am aware would fully depress her, but I have to do what is most safe for my own physical health. I would still like to remain friends, as she is a very sincere person and I trust her. Again, thank you for reading, I look forward to any comments anyone can offer. - C.