JesusGirl74

Thank you both Adrial and livinginrainbow! :) I really appreciate you taking the time to comment.

This is a question that I have been trying to figure out for a long time and close family/friends think that I say something too fast. When I first started dating 14 plus years ago after finding out that I had it, I presented it like a horrible life sentence. Crazy enough, I had been in two serious relationships (one of them marriage with a child) and they were completely accepting. The irony is, now that I am not "freaking out" when I talk about it and explain it in the manner suggested in this website, I've been rejected more. I know that is not the norm of what should happen when presenting it in the relaxed confident way, but it's what is happening. One guy acted like he did not care about it and then turned around after we messed around (NO SEX though) and said that he had a change of heart about it. He further said that he read that if we had children together by chance that there is a chance that our children or him could get Cerebral Palsy from herpes and he did not want to risk that. He also threw the "since we are Christians guilt trip" on me for us even messing around (which he totally engaged in as I did not force myself on him) leaving me to feel embarrassed, guilt-ridden and angry. I'm dating again and have been introduced to a friend's son. We have been talking for a few weeks and are very interested in each other. He has been asking a lot of probing questions (character-based) that come along with dating and we have also been sharing lots of our personal past history with each other. Mine includes a bit of wild and crazy days when I was younger, but we share the fact that we have children and are divorced. Both of us have dealt a lot with our exes, etc. With that being said, I just felt like it was the right time the other day to disclose it. We are both very busy and rarely get to see each other in person, so I decided to tell him over the phone. He seemed okay with it and I disclosed it in a positive healthy manner. He does not know much about it, but did say after I explained what the different types of herpes was that his ex got cold sores. I told him that was herpes, etc. At any rate, he seemed fine overall...but he has been distant the past several days. So now I'm confused...Did I say something too fast? When is the right time to say something???