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also, what are the rules for oral sex? since we were both diagnosed we have been having sexual relations like before, when it comes to oral sex, I'm scared I'll get herpes on my mouth or lips? I wasn't able to find anything online about it.

@wcsdancer2010 @positivelybeautiful @fitgirl My boyfriend got tested and was positive for genital herpes as well. I could have very possibly given it to him since I've never been tested. He said that he didn't get tested after his last hook up and she was known for being less than safe with her relationship so he could've given it to me as well. He and I are better than ever because we can support each other but I am scared for if we don't work out and I am alone with having to deal with it myself. I realize how much I've grown dependent on him for how much he accepted and loved me through this life-altering stage in my life. Thank you for all your support and words. I will get tested in a 6 months to determine my diagnosis.

@ambitious85 thank you so much that makes me feel so much better. Im glad I have someone to relate to. Your words helped me a lot and gave me reassurance. @wcsdancer2010 i may go somewhere else but i just don't know if i want to put myself through that again. Maybe in a few weeks after I build up my courage and self-esteem more.

@wcsdancer2010 @positivelybeautiful @ambitious85 Idk if i had to tag you for my above comment. also, it'll be a battle to move past the fear with having sex with my boyfriend because of the risk, is there any advice on having intercourse and just being in the moment without any hesitation? he really wants it to work he just doesn't know how to get out of his head.

I just went in to get my first gyno visit cause I've never been to one before. She said it was IGM and i was exposed to it in the last month or so. I did sleep with a random guy I met at a frat party about a month ago before mike and I became official. I went in for a gyno visit the week after. Of course that would be the guy to expose it to me. I called to ask questions and the assistant lied and said she wasn't there until i asked so many questions and she had to put me on hold so many times that the doctor finally talked to me directly. She told me to stay away from forums and I only have a .2 but its a new virus and the antibodies that are developed are positive and in the next 6 weeks or so they will all develop. and I never had any symptoms except last night my boyfriend said he was willing to take the risk and we had sex with a condom, I've been taking meds for the past few days. but there was one small part that was irritated on the rim of my vagina, it felt like it was just rubbed raw, there was no cut or sore or lesion, just swollen and agitated. Will that happen every time I have sex? Or was that an outbreak and I made the huge mistake of having sex with him during it?

@WCSDancer2010 @Positivelybeautiful I just called my doctor and she said that I was just infected by it in the last month or so so not all my antibodies were developed yet so I only have a .2 but all the antibodies that are developed are positive and I can get retested in about 6 weeks to know my full count. I went in to get my first pap exam and gyno visit and just got tested with everything. Thank you for all your kind words. I will have to find some way to get through this.

@mmissouri @WSCDancer2010 I have HSV2 genital herpes. I know its pathetic but I am too scared to even open the video. It'll make this all real. This morning I woke up and thought it was just a bad dream. Sometimes I fantasize that they'll call me and tell me they made a mistake. My boyfriend said that he fell in love with my mind not my body and a big part of him thinks its worth the risk, he will still need some time to figure out where he stands with all of this. It is only a 4% chance for a female to give it to a male, and thats only if we didn't use a condom nor being on medication. I can't help but feel like even if my boyfriend chooses that he still wants to be with me ill always feel like I am less valuable than him and I'm lucky he still wants to be with me. Im not an ugly girl, I had a terrible year of under-valuing my worth and giving my body to people that didn't deserve it or love me. I thought I got past those insecurities but now I'll have to live with those mistakes for the rest of my life. The doctor can't even tell me how long I've had it. I can't tell my family, for all they know I'm still a virgin. I guess Im asking how you guys coped with it and rebuilt your self-love and self-value? I am terribly lonely, not having anyone to talk to except my boyfriend via FaceTime because he lives back home and my best friend that lives at home as well. Do you think a support group will help? I just don't want to walk in there and be the only girl under the age of 30. Sorry for typing an essay its just really hard to have the courage to even talk about it.

I just moved to a new state by myself with room mates. I'm 19 years old and was diagnosed today. I told my boyfriend whom is a very new relationship. He is getting tested. He is being very supportive but I can tell things are different between us. I'm getting medication, but will I be able to have sex with him ever again? How high is the risk of him getting infected if he has sex with me with condoms and my suppressive medication? I'm so young. I haven't even lived yet. I feel depressed and disgusting and ashamed. I have a feeling he is going to dump me. I will never have a normal life again.