Hope2015

I'd just like to thank everyone for commenting on my post. I am very thankful to have this safe place to come too to gain perspective. I'm sure I will continue to disclose, it's just so heartbreaking when all you really want is a relationship. I live in a small town and trust me opportunity doesn't always come along in as nice of a package as this one was. Thank you @WCSDancer 2010 for all the links, I have read and watched them.Very uplifting and great perspective! Onward and upward!

Thanks. I know and I have disclosed..even bought the lifestyle guide on having the talk! This guy even admitted he gets cold sores, but in his nose. He wasn't willing to wear a condom because he's selfish (his words) and too paranoid to contract something from me.(his words) I just think I played the whole thing wrong. Can you even change the guy's mind afterward and get him to see you again?

I've had herpes for 11 years with 3 outbreaks. Admittedly I've let it control my love life,(which has been virtually non existent for the last six). I've disclosed to the three or so guys I've ventured out on a limb to date. They stuck around but the relationships ended anyways. Now I meet this great guy, I do a positive disclosure.. I mean I really own it! And he says sorry can't do it! Here's the thing if so many people already have it...and I haven't passed it to anyone in 11 years ..not using condoms or suppressive therapy, why risk getting my heart being broken when I do disclose and he runs like I'm a leaper?!?