Hey everyone!
I dug around a bit, granted didn't do a full scale search, but didn't come across anything for gay couples/dating/hookups and success any gay guys here have had with disclosure and relationships, or honestly just hookups. While I vastly appreciate all the advice and discussion from the many lovely ladies here, I haven't seen much advice from the dudes of (h)opportunity, particularly any gay men.
I'm currently in a relationship going on 10-11 months with the same guy who infected me. He's one of the "lucky" 80% who have never had any sign or symptom of having HSV. He's never had a sore, either orally, anally, or around his mouth, with the exception of type-1 cold sore on a very rare occasion (never since we've been together.) I had a large outbreak within our 3rd month of dating and felt shamed, disgusted, cried myself to sleep several nights, and immediately disclosed that I had *some* type of HSV to my parents (though still not exactly committed to telling them it's HSV-2, but the disclosure in basic form has been great for my self-esteem, since they comment on cold sores and understand my need for medication - everyone has meds for something!)
My questions stem to my relationship. I'm 24, my partner is 15+ years my senior. I realize this means we're likely not a life-long match, and some may say "well then why are you wasting your and especially his time?" We have deep love for each other, and maybe we need to have conversations about the future of our relationship now that we're approaching a full year.
So if I'm putting myself in that dating pool again come fall, or something, can any guys share their success stories about disclosure, hookups, dating and relationships?
Again, appreciate everyone here a TON but would really like someone with a similar story to me!
- Water