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Thanks everyone for replying. I'm just gonna go one day at a time with him. Also, when and if the time comes to disclose I will for sure give him what he needs to know about HSV. If it's still a deal breaker.. Well than he just isn't the guy I was meant to be with. I will keep everyone posted on what happens. Wish me luck ! =)

Thanks JJJ2015 ! So far I am into him and that's about all he has said so far about STD's. So I will wait and see what happens.. Fingers Crossed ! =)

Any advice would be great.. Started talking to this guy recently. Asked him what would be some reason's for him not to date someone. His answer.. Std's ! So should I just basically stop talking to him now or just wait to see what happens? It's obviously to soon to tell him I have HSV.. What should I do???

Thank you @WCSDancer2010 !

Thank you !

I have Hsv2 genital. Was diagnosed is Febuary and been taking 500mg Valtrex daily every since. Curious to know if anyone knows the percentage of transmitting it to someone who does not have it and if a condom is being used? I heard the rate is pretty low. But want to confirm through this site cause this is the best site ever !! =)

@fitgirl Thank you and yes I do believe that this is gonna weed out the good guys from the not so good ones (as in the ones who only want sex ) I need to start focusing on myself instead of focusing on looking for a man.

@WCSDancer2010 Thank you so much for all the info and taking time to respond to me. Makes me feel at ease with everything. I am so happy I decided to join this forum ! =)

Ok that's good to know.. I actually just sent a message to the guy I disclosed to the other night about how he shouldn't treat me differently because of what I have. I also sent him the link to this site. At this point I don't care if he comes around about it or not. I just don't want him to treat people differently cause of the H and I now know he just wanted to get INTO ME! Thank you for responding.. =)

Has anyone ever had it where the person u told u had H to declined being with you, quit talking to you, then eventually change they're minds? Hasn't happened to me . But I am Curious if this could happen.

@ihaveittoo1975 I jumped in quickly due to I'm afraid of being alone. I think you are right about how I need to maybe wait awhile. I have 3 great friends that I have been talking to about this and they have been so helpful. As for symptoms.. Well I had an outbreak in January that's how I found out and it wasn't as bad as I have read that some people have. I did decide to take medication everyday for the rest of my life. That made me feel some what as ease with it. I have both HSV 1 & 2. When I had the culture done I didn't believe what it said. So I went to a different dr and decided to have blood work and well here I am. Positive for both. I do appreciate you commenting. I do believe your right. I need to slow down on the dating. I also have a problem with when guys tell me how gorgeous I am and stuff like that I always think " you wouldn't think that if u knew what I have " I need to try and come to terms with having this and not let it take over my outlook on life.

I was recently diagnosed with H back in January. Felt as though my world came to an end. When I found out I was in the process of talking to an old high school boyfriend. We have been friends for years and was talking about possibly having a future together. He lived a couple hours away. I felt he needed to know before I would see him again. So I told him through txt message. Worst decision I could have made (so I thought) he began treating me as though I was contagious through the phone. I couldn't believe it ! Never would have expected that from him. Needless to say I have cut all ties with him. But then I knew I needed to tell my Best guy friend. My heart started pounding, I started to shake. I was so scared he wasn't gonna wanna be best friends let alone a friend to me anymore cause he was a guy and well the last guy I told treated me horribly. Thank god he didn't treat me any other way. He still loves me for who I am not what I have. Those are the friends I need right now. So after a couple months I decided to put myself out there and maybe try and date again. I got on a online dating site. Found this guy and we started talking. We even met. Went on some awesome dates and even did the whole make out session. I knew I would have to eventually tell him and so 2 nights ago I did. He took it well. Said one of his best friends has it too. But he said he would have to think about it. So he did and a couple hours later told be he didn't think he could handle it. Told him I undertand and that I would still like to be friends and he agreed. But deep down I was devastated ! All day yesterday I cried and even started thinking bad thoughts. I feel as though I am never gonna find a man who will want me! Also I haven't heard from this guy at all and I don't know why. Why is that people say they will be friends with u and end up not wanting anything to do with you?? Since I have found out I have H nothing but bad things have been happening in my life. I feel as though I am a good person. I do so much for others (save life's ) and this is what I get in return. I feel it's not fair at all ! I at this point do not want to put myself out there anymore due to rejection. I honestly was even scared to be on this forum but I have to do something in order to find help and not feel alone in this. Is there true happiness with having H and will I find someone who will want to be with me ??? Please if anyone could give me advise I would appreciate it.