@WCSDancer2010
Thank you for your thoughtful comment. She is such a wonderful person and a great friend. I had no idea that she and I were so close, and this opportunity has brought us much closer.
HSV-1 was .91, and HSV-2 was 9.72. When I looked at the report again I saw .97, so there was a lot of confusion on why they were calling it positive. When I looked at it a third time I finally saw the number that my hope wouldn't let me see.
I can understand the shame and the fear. Though I had that understanding, I had heard too many things for too long about him that affected my opinion of him. I also considered that he neglected to take any precautions and risked my friend's wellbeing. He's not a young adult. He has a background in counseling, but he plays so many games. Of course I'm biased toward her, but I'm looking at the bigger picture, I assure you.
She was headed in the direction of staying in the relationship, but his recent behavior has made her think long and hard about that. He was aware that she planned to be tested. With her delay in revealing the results, we might guess that he has a good idea of the outcome, but his recent behavior doesn't reflect any level of caring.
All of these factors have influenced my opinion of the situation. Of course, it really isn't about me. It's about her and her struggle and her happiness.
Thank you for the pointers.