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@2legit2quit Its possible he gave it to me, but at this point I'm not interested in spending my time trying to figure it out. I was willing to consider both possibilities and was accepting of him either way and he wasn't and chose to accuse me so in the end its his loss and my gain because I now know he wasn't the one.

Thanks @rfdnyc! Your message was really sweet and encouraging. Good luck with everything! :-)

Thanks so much @WCSDancer2010! I guess I should thank my wingman for revealing that. Although I feel a little guilty for possibly unknowingly transmitting the H to him, I still didn't deserve to be treated the way he treated me and that's what I have to keep reminding myself!

Thank you for sharing your story! I was recently diagnosed and my boyfriend left once we found out so I've been feeling hopeless, like I'll never find love/acceptance, but this gives me hope that its possible as long as I keep working on accepting myself first.

My advice is to become a patient of nurse Terri warren from westover heights clinic. She does phone consultations and also if you go on the website you can ask anonymous questions via posting on a board similar to this one and she replies. Some blood tests are more reliable than others. So be mindful of that. Good luck Thanks whitedaisies! I'll look her up!

Yes to the first question. His blood test was negative the first time and then positive the second. The closest contact was the time I referred to when I was making out with a guy with my underwear off. He was grinding on me and when I reached my hand down to stop him I realized his penis was out. I suggested that I possibly was exposed then but the bf wasn't buying it...

Hi everyone, Glad to find a site where I can share my experience with a welcoming community. Still struggling with accepting everything so I thought it might be helpful for me to get some thoughts... I just got diagnosed in June. On a friday morning in mid June, my boyfriend of almost a year shows me some bumps on his penis. I ask him what he’s been doing/where that must have come from and he says he’s not sure, but wonders if it’s some sort of rash. He says he’s going to do to the doc to check it out. A few days later, he says it’s not getting better and his doc took one look a said it looks like herpes. I happened to have a doc apt scheduled so I said I would get tested just in case even though I had not symptoms…a few days later my doc lets me know I test positive for HSV2. At 27, I was a virgin and my boyfriend was my first sexual experience (of any kind), so the only explanation was that my boyfriend must have had it. I had no reason to believe he had been unfaithful so I figured he had gotten it before he met me. I call him to let him know my results and he blows up and breaks up with me on the spot. I’m completely devastated and confused. He calls the next day and says that he tested negative for it. We spend the next few days trying to figure things out. Because he tested negative he felt justified in feeling suspicious that I was being dishonest in some way and I was placed in the position of defending myself and my integrity. I had never been with anyone in a sexual way. The closest I had gotten was a month before I started dating him: I made out with someone with my underwear off and stopped him when he tried to take things further. My friends and family are all like forget about him, he gave it to you and he’s in denial, but I wasn’t so sure. Here’s what made things complicated: my index score was 11 when I first got tested and then 13 when I retested at my gyn. For my boyfriend this was enough to convince him that I was lying. He got retested a week later and it came back positive. His index score has since climbed to 3.44. He decided that the results indicated that I had the infection way longer than he did and that meant I was a liar so he broke up with me and hates me now. I have never been more confused about anything in my life. I’ve considered all kinds of crazy scenarios for how I might have contracted it. Perhaps I was assaulted as a kid and have no recollection? I have no reason to lie. Honestly I was more afraid that being a virgin at my age would turn guys off and now I have to deal with disclosing that I have herpes. Also it led to the end of what had been a great relationship. Unfortunately, H revealed the worst in him which I guess is a lesson that he wasn't the right one if he could jump to conclusions and accuse me when things got complicated.. Anyone have insight into what might explain the way the blood test results rolled out? Could he have had it but test negative anyway? He did have symptoms and so far, I haven’t had any severe outbreaks. I think I have had some mild symptoms but can’t really be sure cause I’ve just experienced some discomfort in the anal area…otherwise, no real effects other than the psychological pain of knowing the first person I gave myself to most likely gave me herpes and blames me for it. Is it possible that I somehow got it even though I’ve never had sex with anyone else as far as I know? Why would he test negative and then positive which makes it look like he just contracted it from me? Any thoughts/words of encouragement are welcome :-)