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Thank you! Yes, I'm seeing that about her too. I'm sure we will have many more talks about herpes and what it means for us both, and this info will help. I appreciate the support!

Thank you! I needed to hear that.

Thank you Marie! I actually just returned from her place. I wasn't going to bring it up tonight because she had a rough day, but somehow there was a perfect segue...so I went for it. It went waaaaaay better than I expected! I told her I had something important to tell her, and then I did. I didn't ramble or stumble over what to say, I just stated the facts. She was very understanding and wasn't judgmental at all. She obviously had some concerns, but she said she wanted to do more research and get tested, and that "there are worse things in the world." And then she kissed me and thanked me for telling her. I still can't believe that this happened. So much hope!!!

Hi, I'd like to start by saying how grateful I am for this site/all of you for the second-hand encouragent and hope! As a newbie here, you all have been a major blessing to me in the last few days and I can't thank you enough! Especially since WebMD was scaring the absolute sh** out of me ;) I'm Adam. I'm 25 and I found out Wednesday that I have GHSV-1. I recently (within the last month+) started seeing this woman and we both know there's something special there. She is incredible in every way and I truly feel lucky to be getting to know her. The only hiccup is my shiny new diagnoses. We have had sex a few times in the last 2 weeks (before I showed symptoms or had this bomb dropped on me) but she has been my only partner recently. My last partner was over 4 months ago, which leads me to believe she gave it to me when performing oral sex. My symptoms started showing about a week and a half after we last had sex. She has such integrity and maturity, which also leads me to believe that she doesn't know she has H, otherwise I'm sure she would've disclosed before we became physical. I really value this girl and am so hopeful for our relationship, but I'm nervous about disclosing. I had zero idea that I was infected until after we started having sex, so my fear is that she will think I didn't have the courage to tell her sooner. Another fear is that I have already infected her genitally without knowing. I think the biggest fear I have is that if this doesn't go the way I hope, a really good thing will have slipped away from me. Deep down I know that if it's meant to be, it will work out. I also realize that disclosing can be a way to filter people out, leaving only REAL relationships. I'm just incredibly hopeful that this is real. My best friend crashed at my place last night, and I told him the whole story. He was so supportive and completely non-judgmental! It couldn't have gone any better actually. We ended up laughing and having a great time like nothing weird had been said. Herpes wasn't taboo and it gave me a glimpse into what I hope for with this girl...acceptance. Thank you for reading! I know I have some fears that are pretty normal, but I'm working on them. From here my plan is to brainstorm a bit on how to bring this topic up with my partner, and to work on myself. I still have a way to go to fully accept this reality, but your support through comments and posts will help me, I'm confident of that! Thanks again!!