Hi @Bambina, thanks, yes I spoke to the lawyer in order to understand various aspect and impact even outside of relationship, it looks like it can be done in special courts but this also brings in the criminal law (also main thing is laws are very state specific too), which is almost a category of felony. Which I would never want to do. There is mandatory/tort law but which is more economical approach but would not help in most of the cases, esp mine. Third option would be the best for both parties if both agree, that would be out of court settlement or mutual agreement as long as both parties are reasonable, and as I am seeking person to have responsibility of the her part of actions and acknowledge condition understand the losses e.g. medications or insurance or ESP. loss of any opportunity, if she agrees and is able to settle any obligations that is better. By grace of god, financially, I am in better position (also with respect to her as far as I know), and have a progressing business, but I have had days where I have relied on others for my meals too and its also test of relationships in those situations, and I don't want to be left stranded alone.
Thanks for checking out for me and for the hugs, I can use both. I think is testing my faith in life as I believe "whatever happens,...happens for good"...and I have a great deal of patience.
@WCSDancer2010
Thanks for guiding me with details. Yes it was a swab test. Yes I got it from oral sex and I can pretty much prove it.
Well as for previous conversation, though we have not specifically spoken about STD there have always been type of questions like "anything in her past that can impact" or "need to know" types, and may be not a correct judgement on my part that I did not think I need to run down a checklist like legal, financial, psychological, physical etc...
As for me is she is a willing and a right match on not, my thing is at least take responsibility and acknowledge the situation and incident.
As of I being responsible for my health, that is correct and I am and that's where I had been cautious most of the time. But I see it almost like, if you own an moderately expensive car bought from majority of your savings, you are responsible for it and for all its maintenance, but when you are driving correctly or parked and someone comes and bangs into it in your presence to the extent that its a permanent or major damage, what would be your reaction. Would you think of it would be in lines with ...yeah go ahead ...no problem....we don't need to call cops and register or even call the insurance and we will forget it.....
Now given that it is a friend or spouse driving the other car, the best you would do is even if you did not go for case or insurance....it would be thing to mutually work it out, and it would be understandable that they may or may not be able to cover the losses given on their situation. But to do so first thing is both needs to acknowledge it. Personally if my spouse/gf said I was incorrectly parked and that I am solely responsible for it (even when I was correct) and she has nothing to do with it (esp knowing her car had a problem) and I should solely take care of the wreck and it would be my sole problem to be without a car even if I am missing work...then I don't think she would be in the condition "to hand me my ..." .But again that is my personal POV and car might be too trivial a thing for analogy. But going for that argument would not lead to any solution.
Thanks again to @Bambina and @WCSDancer2010 for the inputs.