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@2legit2quit and @WCSDancer2010 - thank you for your responses, very nice of you guys to show such kindness and support to someone you don't know. :)

Hello! Background: I'm a 27 year old man, and I have a slight idea who gave me HSV2 but i'm not 100%. For the past year i've been in an amazing monogamous relationship with an incredible man that I love and the disclosure was cathartic - it went really well, he got tested shortly after and he is HSV2 negative but HSV1 positive...surprise! I do have a question about Oral sex: Does anyone know how common is it for someone to get HSV2 from performing oral sex? If there are any guys out there (straight or gay) maybe they can chime in here or anyone who has been itimate with a HSV2 positive male or a woman. During my initial outbreak we messed around but I was off limit (he got all the fun) but now i'm going three weeks strong with out any visible outbreaks (I get sharp pains once in a while in the area where I had the outbreak but nothing visible) and we both feel comfortable having sex but i'm concerned about oral sex - by the way, a week ago I started taking one 500mg tablet of valtrex as well as one 1g of lysine, daily. I've seen discussions of people that said that they had outbreaks in there throat from HSV2 due to Oral sex, so I what to be safe. Is he at a high risk? Should I abstain completely from it, and just have protected sex? Any advice or stories would be amazing. If anyone out there wants to share but not public please PM me. Thanks everyone for hearing my story. This has been a roller coaster of ride, but i'm just happy and feeling blessed that this isn't a deadly virus and that I have such great people in my life. Thanks. -Edward

Well I said it...yikes! I've been struggling with my first outbreak for a six days now (it's still going strong...). I'll admit I'm freighten. I occilate from being completely okay with what is happening to being sad and thinking "is my penis ever going to look cute again?" I'm slowly coming to peace with what is happening I'm just hoping I can survive this first outbreak without too may psychological scars. I've found that continuing my normal social and work activities has helped and that sitting at home being moody has only led to self-loathing, which I've vetoing. I've Google so much, and felt overwhelmed by a lot, but I've read a lot of the science articles on how suppressive medication works, as well as perused the website of the CDC for guidance, which has helped with coping (could be helpful for people). This forum has been awesome, because it allowed me to interpret this disease differently, and allowed me to see that Herpes is annoying but it can be manageable - so thank you! For now I'm just going to keep swimming (I hope people got that reference). If anyone has tips on first outbreaks or advice for this newbie I'll gladly take it - if not, thank you for allowing me to process what is happening in a healthy, safe space.