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I will keep you all posted. I’m actually thinking of going to dinner and then sending an email the day after if it goes well. As I think it will probably not go great, I don’t want to do it face to face. Thanks all 🙂

You’re very right what’s the worst that can happen. I think my mind was always made up that I’d tell them when I chose to and I’d probably get to know them a bit first. 3 or 4 dates maybe? That’s what I did with my ex. But because a comment was made it’s kind of thrown me. I don’t want to waste my time. But I’ve only met him once, I don’t feel ready to disclose yet. We’re supposed to go for dinner next. So I can’t really announce it on a second date eating dinner. Maybe an email afterwards or before? Also I feel really guilty letting a man buy me dinner when he doesn’t know, like I’m deceiving him!

Maybe I should just tell him before we meet again?

Hm, yes that’s what I’m thinking. It’s a shame because we seem a good match. And I find it strange someone in the medical field is so paranoid about a skin condition. Oh well!

Any comments would be appreciated. It’s the first person I’ve met since my long term boyfriend when I found out about h. So it’s essentially my first and I’m nervous

Hi all, looking for dating advice! I broke up with my long term partner recently and it seems now is time to get on the wagon again (dread)! i went on a date the other day with a lovely guy, works in the medical field actually. Anyway, I don’t really recall how the conversation started, a joke about dancing for money I believe, but anyway, he came out and said the following: ”well most of us in the medical field are really phobic, always been careful not to catch herpes” anyway, I don’t know if it was an off the cuff remark, a joke or that he’d have a serious issue with it. I didn’t feel comfertable telling him my status on a first date, so I didn’t mention it. But I don’t know if seeing him again would be wasting my time. Any experience of jokes, phobics? background, I was diagnosed accidentally by blood test, I don’t get symptoms that I know of. So in some levels of my mind it’s entirely unfair that I shouldn’t even know but have to announce it. I also have no issue with my status and it is just a skin condition, I get people don’t want to catch it, but it’s not like a serious illness! thank you! Love to all!

Hey all, Diagnosed 2 years ago. Met the man of my dreams yay he accepted me!!!! Well 2 years laters we've broken up. Any advice on getting back out there with this? Thanks

How did it go? I want to try too!

Thanks. I honestly think he forgets what I first told him. But I can't keep stressing myself out about it and thinking I need to talk about it again. Think I'm just going to forget it. He gets oral cold sores anyway and the doctor said that makes it even less likely he'd even know about it if he caught it

Thank you!!!! Anyone else any experience? I'm thinking of leaving it and just hoping that if it came to it, we d work through it.

I'm in Europe, they always recommend you come off after a year. Well yes me too, but the thing is I told him the stats when I first told him. He also went to a doctor himself and discussed it. Although I wasn't there I don't know exactly what was said. I've also mentioned that there's a risk but it's low on a few occasions. I don't think he understands it, but not through lack of me trying. That's why I'm not exactly sure what to do now. What more can I do, I think I've tried. On the one hand he seems so non plus that I have it, but on the other he wouldn't want me if he got it. I just don't know. Maybe I'm overthinking and maybe it's not a massive deal and I should try not to worry? Thank you for replying :)

So my boyfriend accepts me excellent! Couldn't be happier! But for one issue, my doctor says I should stop suppressive medicine to see how I am now. I asked my boyfriend if he'd still want me if I got a problem, he said "of course, unless you give it to me" Of course I'll try not too!!! But he doesn't use condoms, his choice. I know no one wants this. Do I just take this as a flippant comment, because no one wants it, or end a relationship out of fear, when the relationship is great and he doesn't seem that bothered that I have it. I don't want to question and pressure him, but I don't know how to take that comment. Anyone any experience?

So I've taken acyclovir for a year. Doctor thinks I should have a break now to see if it's really needed as outbreaks decrease over time. Has anyone tried stopping? Were your outbreaks less than before you started? I've read conflicting information as to whether acyclovir slows your bodies ability to fight this. I'd appreciate anyone's thoughts. I don't want to take them forever, is like to be at a point where I naturally get few outbreaks. Thanks guys, stay positive :)

It's been a year yippee!!! Things do get easier. I myself am not that bothered anymore, just a bit of an irritation every so often. The acyclovir means I worry far less. It's just a skin condition, I'm still me and I'm an awesome person, some would say too nice, but that's another story. I've also had my first birthday since finding out (close to my anniversary) thankfully this year I had much better gifts! Anyway this is just a question, I love acyclovir, I'm ine of the people it doesn't work great for (I take it 3 times a day instead of twice, fast metabolism apparently. And I still get the odd outbreak with irritation). Anyway it's given me my life back. However recently I've become slightly paranoid about hair loss. I've noticed quite a few strands of hair in the shower, more than I ever remember, but maybe I'm just paying attention to it. So few questions maybe it will help others that are worried too. It's been a 9 months since I started acyclovir would hair loss take this long to start? How common is it really? I know the Internet generally gives us worst case situations, so I'm sceptical of the amount of people that say they suffer from it is a real representation. So has anyone here experienced hair loss in acyclovir? Do you think it's a "true" side effect or more related to stress from a diagnosis? Thanks for the replies and chin up everyone, the future is still ours :)

So I thought I'd had a success story..... Well seems it was too good to be true. My boyfriend never wanted to use condoms, which I reluctantly agreed to. He also said he was fine with the herpes. Until I had my first outbreak in the relationship which I needed to tell him about. Since that day hes asked a few times if I'm taking my meds. He's mentioned using condoms (apparently so he lasts longer) and he totally avoids sex with me, he's always too tired. I'm totally devastated. I thought I'd met someone who accepts me. Turns out I was wrong. I'm so upset. Any kind words to help. Thanks.