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Thanks for sharing. Yea my gyn and another dr have been very nonchalant about the whole thing and both have advised against me taking anti virals since I've never had an outbreak. But I know I'm still at risk of spreading even if I never have symptoms. My gyn referred me to an internist, hopefully I'll get more info and I'll continue to rely on this site!

Thanks for sharing @2legit2quit and @elise1977. Reading your stories really gives me.hope that hsv doesn't necessarily mean the end of my relationship. My partner continues to be supportive and told me that he likes what we have and feels closer to me since I was diagnosed. Lately we've spent more time talking instead of having sex while I sort this stuff out so I guess that's a positive lol. Right now I'm at a clinic exploring my medication options. My gyn advised against suppressive meds, saying the risk of side effects outweighed any risk I had of passing hsv to my partner. But I've read so many stories here about the peace of mind that comes when using condoms + meds and I think the only way I'll be comfortable having sex again is knowing I've done all I can to reduce the risk of spreading h. Btw I keep referring to the guy I'm seeing as my "partner", bc it's shorter than "the guy I'm dating" lol. We aren't officially boyfriend/girlfriend but I'd like to be. We are in a monogamous relationship but we haven't had the "talk" yet. He's made comments in passing before my diagnosis that he's only interested in me and said he would let me know if he was sleeping with/wanted to sleep with someone else. Otherwise our status isn't defined. I can't really say that's a top priority for me right now though lol.

Thanks

Also hsv 1 - .91

12 :/ I was hoping for a false positive but that's a high number right?

Thanks so much WCSDancer :) I found out during a drs visit when I thought I just had a yeast onfection. I asked for a full std screening including hsv. I've never had an outbreak or symptoms (that I know of). I am definitely interested in anti virals. My gyn said that she doesn't recommend them bc their side effects outweigh any risk I have of passing hsv, but I still want to explore taking them. I know I'd feel a lot more confident having sex if I minimized my risk of passing this as much as possible.

I first have to say I am very thankful for this site. I recently disclosed my hsv 2 positive status to a romantic/sexual partner and I may not have gone through with it without the help of reading the experiences on these forums. My partner's response to my status has been amazing and better than I could have ever hoped for. He's been extremely supportive and understanding. He got tested after I disclosed and he is negative. He knows he has to follow up with another test in a couple of months. He wants to resume having sex but I am scared to death of infecting him. I'm also struggling with feeling indebted to him bc he still wants to be with me even though I have this std. I am scared and tempted to just break it off with him so that I don't have to worry about the future, e.g. me infecting him, him deciding he can't handle this after all and break up with me or him holding it over my head that he is staying with me (although he is a super sweet guy and I could never imagine him doing this). Any shared experiences or advice would be greatly appreciated :)