Long story short, I found out someone that I was intimate with has herpes. I thought that I was okay because I did not have any initial break outs, rash, discomfort, burning, etc. afterwards. Thinking back, I did have very mild flu-like symptoms about a month after the last time we had sex, near the time of my period. At that time, I felt like I was about to get a cold sore but it never developed - just a little dot. I only ever remember having one cold sore prior, a few years ago. I also realized that I have been getting enlarged lymph nodes in my groin area near the time of my period for the last fews months now. These are mild as well. I had seen a couple doctors about my swollen lymph nodes because I was concerned and knew that something was off, but didn't know about his H status yet. Now, 5 months later I still have no visible lesions, rashes, burning, etc. At times I "feel" itches and tingles but very mild and nothing extreme. I have been to three doctors since, telling them my situation and requesting a test. They have all told me that it is not beneficial to test unless there is something visible to swab, and to keep an eye on it and return if I see anything. One has even told me that I DO NOT have herpes. He explained it like this: It's the same as requesting a test for shingles without having any rash. I am really worried about whether I have it or not and passing it on to someone if I do. I have not gotten any clear, good answers and don't know what else to do. Do I have it or not? Should I tell future partners? What to do? Please help/share your experiences.