janedoe
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I'm basically a walking risk to his health.
Seriously what the f? This kind of toxic mentality will keep you having the happiness you deserve not herpes. I suggest reading hippyherpy's and herpes veterans posts. Dont blow this out of proportion.
I disclosed to 6 guys, 2 of them ghosted, remaining were super understanding about it and wanted to be with me. So disclosure is no big deal.
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I got genital hsv 2 from someone who wasnt showing symptoms. When he got the blood test his results were positive. It is totally possible to have it and not showing symptoms. However if you want to repeat the test or have a hard time believing it, you can get the Western blot.
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Also, acyclovir gave me crazy migrane episodes. But when herpes irritated my nerves, I got headaches at the base of my skull. So, I had two types of headaches in the beginning.
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I got flu like symptoms, headaches, red eyes and nerve pain every time I had an ob for 7 months after my diagnosis. It is totally normal. Also, I had prondrome symptoms like crazy. After couple of months, you can identify your triggers ( my triggers are sleep deprivation and getting angry or sad) and act accordingly. Sleep well, eat healthy and exercise. The symptoms will go away.
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Answers to your questions are NO.
You dont spread herpes by sharing food, giving hugs or giving or receiving kisses on the cheeks. Herpes needs direct and prolonged skin to skin contact to be contagious. So, unless you rub your infected areas really hard with the other person, you wont spread it.
Happy holidays.
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I got those when I'm first diagnosed. In my opinion herpes gets your nerves irritated and that causes headaches. Nothing to worry about. They'll go away in time.
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@hippyherpy Have you heard from your doctor about your test results?
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Hi,
You can switch to acyclovir. When I was on a Valtrex, I was having constant symptoms. Now, with acyclovir and a strong immune system they are gone. For some reason my body responded better to acyclovir.
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Hi,
It's almost 1.5 years since I have herpes and what a rollercoster ride it has been... It's been so long since I posted here it's partly because I've a mild anxiety disorder and partly I didn't want to jinx it.
Anyway, since I posted here, I've disclosed to 6 guys. 2 of them rejected (ghosted), 4 of them accepted. In short 80% acceptance rate which isn't bad :) Currently I'm dating someone who is just wonderful about this ordeal. Hes a pretty awesome guy and I'm really happy.
Also, I started eating healthy and going to gym regulary. This lifestyle helped with my anxiety and my outbreaks. I didn't have an ob in last 6 months and my prondromes are nonexistent at this point. Yay!
Moreover, during this time I discovered that my triggers are sleep deprevation and high emotions. What I mean by this is that if I dont get enough sleep and get really angry or sad, I'll be having prondrome symptoms. However since I'm getting enough sleep almost every night, my herpes isn't active in a very long time.
The major change in my life is that I started to see a psychiatrist. She helped me tremendously with herpes and my anxiety. I'm felling much better now.
I don't know when I'll post again but to all newly-diagnosed I want to say things get better. It really isn't a big deal. So hang in there :)
Also, to all the wonderful people here, especially Adrial and WCSDancer: Thank you so much for your support. Without you, I'd probably have gone insane by now. Thank you for being there for me.
Take care.
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"Do you really want a guy who can't get his facts straight about this? Could mean that he'll probably make ignorant decisions in the future as well."
So true (Insert clap emoji here)
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Hey, I suggest reading reddit posts. The community there has a quite bit of a male population and they have good success stories.
Also, 3 days ago, I was venting abt h to my sister and she gave me really good advise. The thing abt h is that some people dont get it. No matter what you say or how you disclose, they're gonna reject you... which is fine cause that is how you end up with a disfunctional relationship pre-h.
Your hand in the dating game has changed cause now your penis comes with a label that says "if you dont really like me, do not enter". But you can still win!!! Go hit the gym, change your attitude towards life and I'll guarentee you, you'll find many ladies who want to be with you casually or seriously.
Right now, you're c.ckblocking yourself cause lets be honest, a lot of people dont wanna spend time with an unhappy person. I've read many success stories here and on reddit and I guarantee you, if you have something to offer, people will come to the table. A reddit user posted sth abt being with 15 people in 2 years post h!!!! That's a quite bit of a success.
Just start living again. Your mindset is your enemy. Hugs...
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Good for you. After this batch, I might start on acyclovir again. What is the dosage? I took 2x400 mg but here they have 800 mg ones too and I'm not so sure
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Well some people, myself included, dig a deep hole when something like this happens and throw ourselves a pity party. Coming up from that hole isnt easy. It takes time. Like I said be there for him. Sooner or later he's gonna see that life goes on and he has you to rely on.
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Well, how about you start dating with better girls? I blame myself partly cause I cant believe that I spent time with that a.hole. I'm sure if he had acted decent, I'd not have blamed myself this much. Also, looks like you need friends with better perspectives. I told my sister and my closest friends and they were nothing but supportive. I suggest reading hippyherpy's posts. He has done tons of discloses with success...
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Hi,
Welcome to the forum. First of all, the hardest part of the h is stigma. I'm a newbie, had two outbreaks and believe me they are just uncomfortable and really manageable. However, the feeling you get when you diagnosed, the feeling that you're dirty, and not worth of someone's love is the hardest part. So you guys are pretty lucky that you found each other. You can support him by explaining the fact that std's are normal, they are just part of being human and he is still sexy. You can put his mind at ease by explaining him that if he takes antivirals and use condoms, transmission rates are pretty low. Also, be there for him. H tends to aggrevate a person's insecurities. Good luck.
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Dont forget valtrex sort of builds up in your system. It might take a bit more than 10 days.
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At least try for a month?
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Idk, 3 months? I took me abt 2 and a half months to stop getting headaches as a side effect when I was on acyclovir. I started my second prescription of valtrex. I'll continue taking it for another month and if things dont change , I'll switch to acyclovir too.
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Also, I think h was damaged my sciatic nerve, not the other way around. 5 years ago, I injured myself and had problems but it calmed down 3 years ago. Ever since I got h, I get problems in my sciatic nerve as if I lift sth heavy. I go to the gym but I dont lift weights.
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@Katidid I think 2 other people in the forum mentioned this problem too. I was thinking I was showing atypical symptoms and virus was active all time and I can never be sexual with someone again. But your post and other people coupled with my doctor's comments convinced me that this is nerve damage or sth.
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@Katidid I want to stop taking the meds but last time I tried, I started itching all over... my doctor told me take the meds for a year since it's a recent infection then if I want to I can stop. I know how you feel.... this tingling is making me depressed, it's a constant reminder that I have this... please keep me posted.
Right now, I'm sitting and putting pressure on my right side (original ob site) and it hurts... but my second ob was on the left side.
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I discussed this leg pain with my doctor at PP. She said it is most likely nerve damage. She was quite suprised when I said I had this tingling and twitches everyday. She wanted to prescribe famvir but I didnt want to... I dont think this is prodromes, when virus wakes up I get headaches, as if someone is pressing down in the back of my head.
I have a theory abt this. I think 2 Legit mentioned in a post that antivirals works like a signaling mechanism. So, when we take antivirals, maybe our immune system becomes so good at finding the virus in the nerves even though we arent shedding. As immune cells attack the virus, some nerve cells start sending mixed signals and hence the pain.
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You may be right...I switched to valtrex a month ago and I had my second ob... I am having leg pain and tingling both on valtrex and acyclovir but I didnt have an ob while I was taking acyclovir.
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I say take the antivirals for a year and see what happens. Then slowly you can stop taking them. I understand that this is a recent infection, maybe that is why your body is having a difficult time handling it.
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Question about pubic hair
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Well, in theory having pubic hair will decrease chances of skin on skin contact and therefore decrease the chances of transmission. I used the lets grow my pubic hair and dont wax protocol for the first couple of months but to be honest I dont think it makes any difference. If you are taking your medication and tracking your symptoms those are usually enough. However unlike waxing shaving with a razor irritates the skin like hell so if you feel comfortable with pubic hair then dont shave it. Alternatively, you can get a machine to trim your pubic hair. I used one for my first year.
In short my advise is either dont shave with a razor and grow your pubic hair or get a hair trimming machine.