No, I don't think she's making a distinction. And she probably *wouldn't* kiss anyone that was HSV+ orally. But I'm negative and have been for years. The worry, supposedly, is that I'll unknowingly get exposed and become infected, but then interact with her before I know I'm infected. And it seems (to me) like layers upon layers of improbability of her getting it. But she's read horror stories about people with lupus and HSV, so I'm trying to get something concrete I can point to in order to quiet her fears.