I'm really afraid of passing the virus to someone too. I think most of us here have or have had that fear. Since your ex knows you have herpes, it's his responsibility to use condoms and ask about your medication usage if he's concerned about contracting it.
I, too, am still trying to figure out exactly what outbreaks look like for me. In my case, I know I contracted herpes at least 20 years ago, but just got the diagnosis a year ago. Until then, I had absolutely no idea. So I'm constantly questioning what is going on with my body. It can be maddening!
Well it looked like I had a yeast infection and BV. So I feel much more relaxed about it considering it explains my severe symptoms. And thanks I am still trying to figure the virus out. I had a pretty horrible first outbreak and I am almost 100% positive when I got it. I have also never experienced a second outbreak. And even though he is aware and is taking his chance I don't want to be the person who could possibly cause him the same pain I dealt with the first year of my diagnosis.