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General %'s are here: https://herpesopportunity.com/downloads/herpes-opportunity-disclosure-handout.pdf

UName that is a pretty good idea. Hopefully it doesn't seem fake or won't see through it. Should I actually go get tested (again)? That way I have the test results etc. Hopefully she doesn't ask to see the HSV texts or something! Ugh.

Hi everyone, Pretty new here but wanted to post as this is bothering me... I've had HSV2 for about 2.5 years now, got it from my now ex-gf who was asymptomatic and never knew. It hit me pretty hard at first (physically), and I take suppressive meds now which keep outbreaks to maybe 1-2 a year max, usually if I miss doses. I've been single for about 1 year, and kind of avoided sexual encounters for this reason. Well this past weekend, I was drunk and had unprotected sex (it was brief, but still). I did not ejaculate inside her if that means anything. The girl is from online dating and based on recent convo's, there is a good chance we'd see each other again / have sex again. She keeps asking to hang out. Based on what I've read, transmission rates of no condom, but on meds, is about 5%. I feel like shit now and see 3 real options: 1) Not tell her, and dwindle things down between us. Hope it was not transmitted. Hope it never comes up. 2) Not tell her, and if she gets symptoms, I can act as an asymptomatic carrier or that I don't have it at all (wouldn't necessarily be me who transmitted it to her). - She could make me get tested, which would obviously come back positive. She could also find out about my daily meds. 3) Tell her, give her the stats, and offer to go with her to get tested. Any advice is appreciated. I really feel guilty. I've avoided sex for a year since breaking up with my ex for this exact reason. Options 2 and 3 basically eliminate continuing things with her. I've also seen that first symptoms typically are 7-14 days after exposure, so clock is ticking :(

Hi everyone, This is my first post here on the forums so I'll give you a quick rundown before I ask my questions..... I was diagnosed with HSV2 back in September 2015 after dating my (now ex) girlfriend for about 8 months. She had 1 incident many years ago with a "pseudo outbreak" on her upper leg and has never had symptoms since. I guess I'm unlucky because it is affecting me a lot. She also failed to mention anything beforehand, even though it was ultimately diagnosed as HSV, which makes things worse mentally for me. Anyways, after a few frequent outbreaks I started taking the Valtrex suppressively, and it has worked pretty well for me overall. Following each early outbreak, however, it always took a few weeks for the nerves down there to really normalize and regain normal sensation. Over time, I stupidly started to ignore the sensitivity (despite it being overall fairly minor), and we would have sex regardless. It was manageable, but I was probably making things worse. This went on for about a year. Over the last few months of our relationship, things got really stressful and it didn't help my cause. We ended up breaking up in January 2017 and the stress of the breakup really set things off. I did have sex with her a few times which was pretty unwarranted, and a few times where I masturbated and was also unwarranted, that definitely made things worse. Now I am in a full blown Post-Herpetic Neuralgia scenario where I can't engage in any sexual activity, and the nerves are completely set off. Normal things hurt or feel weird - water in the shower, pants rubbing against my penis, taking it out to pee, etc. I did see a top doc at Mass General last week and he seems to think I'll get better eventually. But I have a history of nerve issues becoming chronic, and neuralgia in other areas that I am still dealing with, so I am a little skeptical. Right now I am on 600mg 3x per day of Gabapentin, and he gave me a Lidocaine cream to use whenever I want. It is starting to take a toll on me mentally with: 1) stress of the breakup 2) hatred for my ex failing to tell me ahead of time 3) future life of daily pain, implications of dating and sex life So the PHN has been kind of there for around a year, but REALLY set off for about 3 months now. Sorry for all the info, but any help or suggestions are appreciated!!

Hi everyone, This is my first post here on the forums so I'll give you a quick rundown before I ask my questions..... I was diagnosed with HSV2 back in September 2015 after dating my (now ex) girlfriend for about 8 months. She had 1 incident many years ago with a "pseudo outbreak" on her upper leg and has never had symptoms since. I guess I'm unlucky because it is affecting me a lot. She also failed to mention anything beforehand, even though it was ultimately diagnosed as HSV, which makes things worse mentally for me. Anyways, after a few frequent outbreaks I started taking the Valtrex suppressively, and it has worked pretty well for me overall. Following each early outbreak, however, it always took a few weeks for the nerves down there to really normalize and regain normal sensation. Over time, I stupidly started to ignore the sensitivity (despite it being overall fairly minor), and we would have sex regardless. It was manageable, but I was probably making things worse. This went on for about a year. Over the last few months of our relationship, things got really stressful and it didn't help my cause. We ended up breaking up in January 2017 and the stress of the breakup really set things off. I did have sex with her a few times which was pretty unwarranted, and a few times where I masturbated and was also unwarranted, that definitely made things worse. Now I am in a full blown Post-Herpetic Neuralgia scenario where I can't engage in any sexual activity, and the nerves are completely set off. Normal things hurt or feel weird - water in the shower, pants rubbing against my penis, taking it out to pee, etc. I did see a top doc at Mass General last week and he seems to think I'll get better eventually. But I have a history of nerve issues becoming chronic, and neuralgia in other areas that I am still dealing with, so I am a little skeptical. Right now I am on 600mg 3x per day of Gabapentin, and he gave me a Lidocaine cream to use whenever I want. It is starting to take a toll on me mentally with: 1) stress of the breakup 2) hatred for my ex failing to tell me ahead of time 3) future life of daily pain, implications of dating and sex life So the PHN has been kind of there for around a year, but REALLY set off for about 3 months now. Sorry for all the info, but any help or suggestions are appreciated!!