I met a cool guy online a month ago.Let's call him J.We had a great conversation.Then the communication fell off and picked back up last week.We meet up. It goes well.We hang out that night and the next day.No sex!He did tell me that he has sickle cell trait and that most women leave him because he's often ill. I was a little irritated in my lower region.No bumps but a little paper cut.I make an appointment. Boom I have herpes 2.Even though when the Dr. saw the cut she thought it was eczema.I was devasted, hurt and suicidal.She explained to me that other times when it seems like eczema that was my first major ob.The disease probably was dormant because I haven't had sex in months, but been extremely stressed.Back to J, all I could think of was telling him that same day.I didn't research.I just blurted it out through a text at 5 am.Because that's when he gets off.He said, very interesting.That this would have to be talked about in a conversation.I said I can't talk about it! Have a nice day because I can't date you.My dating life is over.This was a Friday morning.After, I had calmed down on Friday night I called and text him, no answer.Left a voicemail apologizing not because I wanted to still date him but I was sorry about the delivery. Saturday I called, no answer. So I text this time telling him, all I wanted to do was apologize because the way I went about it.That I would like to maintain a friendship (no sex).I also said that I thought he would have at least checked on me seeing that I was having a difficult time.That he too was in a situation where people disappeared because he would be in the hospital often from sickle cell trait.It's Sunday, still haven't heard from him. Last night, something told me to google him because the way he said very interesting, and the fact this 40-year-old had a cloudy eye like you see in older people.I showed my guy friend when I found a picture online.My friend said that guy isn't 40.(I'm 34 btw) After my research, I found out he is indeed older and also found a picture of him with a huge bump on his lip.I don't know how to feel about any of this. However, I did push him away.I just thought that we were cool enough to see if I was okay. I really bummed me out!