Thank you @ash2018 and @mason1hg. I really appreciate all the insight and help. I bought lysine as well as the epsom salt. I'm going to try the blow dryer thing tomorrow. I ended up seeing my OBGYN today for a full exam and she disclosed not only does she have herpes but majority of her patients she sees for annual exams are living with it. She said that although I feel so terrible now the first outbreak is the worst. As terrible as the pain is, I do think learning to cope with it and accepting myself for letting this happen will be the hardest part. Also I was put on anti virals, I was told they take a few days to kick in so I'm hoping that happens soon.