hatemylife

I guess it could be possible my husband gave it to me but the difficult part is bringing this up to him. With neither of us having an issue up until now he will instantly assume cheating.....which it could be from that but the fact it was only seconds I'm hearing it's unlikely.

He did not have a cold sore that was visible to me. My mother in law has had many cold sores during the 20 years my husband and I have been together but to the best of my knowledge I don't believe my husband has ever had one. I would think if my husband was positive for oral hsv I would have gotten it long before now wouldn't I have? And my OBGYN said even a few seconds was enough time to get it from this other guy even though I didn't think it was either. I'm just so scared and confused right now. I don't want my marriage to end!

Thank you for your response. I think at times he'll forgive me if I tell him and then other times I think how could he. I'm most ashamed of what people will think of me because of the stigma placed on having something like this. Maybe he'd keep it between us but what if he's mad enough and tells all of our family and friends. I just don't know what to do. This ONE time I slipped and I just feel like my entire life is over.

I was just diagnosed last week with ghsv1. I have been married for almost 16 years and made a terrible lapse in judgment with another man (marriage has been rough the last 6 months). When this other man started to give me oral I instantly felt bad and stopped it and left and have not spoken to him since. But apparently it was enough time to ruin my entire life!! My husband is a good man and this has really opened my eyes that I want to stay with him. We have 3 kids together and I'm so afraid that he'll leave me and this will break up our family. I would rather die than have my marriage end and our family broken up. I hate myself for putting him in this situation. I can't face the stigma or disappointment associated with this terrible virus!! How with all the modern medicine we have is there not a way for people to have to suffer with this?? I Hate myself so much!!!!