I hear you! I was super paranoid when I first got herpes. It's normal to feel the way you do. It's actually a good sign since it shows you care about the sexual health of your partners! ;) Open communication with your partners goes a long way, so talk about the small risks and the unknowns associated with herpes and it can ironically help to have your partners feel that much more taken care of. There's a lot more than just herpes we can get out there, so talking openly about this stuff is not just adult-like behavior, but vital!
I think sometimes I feel alone not only because I have herpes, but because I'm paranoid about it, it's good to see that this is just part of the process.
The truth is that herpes most of the time is not really a problem, only relationships can be a bit more complicated because of it, but that's not everything we have in life.
My mind was making this so much more complicated and you really helped me to see how it all works in reality, that's basically something that we can all deal with.
Thank you for being honest and showing empathy. I wish you the best!