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I understand how MOST people get it, but yeah, protective mama is in effect. I read newborns can die if they get infected. To me it's not worth it.. They can cuddle,eskimo kiss etc..

The problem is that my husband has no symptoms, he still has to get a blood test. He had a cold sore once as a child. That's probably the most frustrating part is his lack of symptoms. He was with his ex wife for 19 years and never once had an ob and she never did either...so if he has no symptoms how do we know when it's ok to kiss on the baby? He got it as a child so why can't a baby?

Also this is really effecting our marriage. My husband is blaming himself and thinks I am mad/blaming him. I am mad, but not at him specifically, just at the whole situtation. How can we both process this in a healthy way. I feel like he is pushing me away because he infected me with herpes and concerned about infecting the baby.

I'm going to try not to babble. I've been with my husband for almost 4 years. I've never had herpes symptoms, he had a cold sore (just once) as a kid but never since. On April 2, 2013 I gave birth to our son. We waited the 6 weeks to have sex. A couple days later I got what I thought was an ingrown hair. I picked at it a little but didn't find a hair. Then another bump popped up, then another, by last weekend I was in excrutiating pain and i had more blisters on my vulva and rectal area then I could count. I went to the doctors on Monday and she confirmed what I deep down (despite convincing myself that it had to be an allergic reaction to soap or something) already knew. She sent of blood work, and was told today that my IGM came back positive, and my IGG negative. She said based on everything she was pretty confident that it was a recent exposure. Since this is my first outbreak and it was a day or two after sex (both oral and vaginal) with my husband. He has absolutely NO symptoms other then back pain but he works construction so he always has back problems. He is going to get tested, but I know there is no way to tell if I got it from Oral or genital sex. I am assuming that I got it through oral since my understanding from literature is that its rare to contract HSV1 with just sex. So I have two questions. 1. How do we handle sex from here on out? Especially since he has no symptoms. I have no desire to have sores on my mouth, but I'm scared to kiss on him since I never know when he is actively shedding. We are fairly sure he is mouth infected because he had cold sores as a kid but never an ob as an adult in either mouth or genital region. What are the best ways to ensure we don't cross infect each other, especially if he doesn't have symptoms? 2. I obviously want to avoid exposure to my newborn. Could I have been exposed to HSV1 on my mouth and not have an outbreak? Or is it fairly safe to assume i am only infected in the genital area, and as long as I don't have an ob on my mouth, I am safe to kiss on the baby? Is it wrong for me to ask my husband not to kiss on the baby until we can figure out some sort of physical symptom that might indicate that he is shedding the virus?