So, basically I realized the other day that some ingrown hairs around my pubic region were not just ingrown hairs. I started suspecting herpes once I noticed I had bumps/lesions in the back of my throat as well. I had also been having body aches and painful urination. I didn't put two and two together until a couple of days ago. I ended up heading to a local urgent care center the day I realized it might be herpes, and they swabbed the back of my throat. I'm supposed to get a call with the results of what they find, but I feel that I don't even need the results. I know for a fact it's herpes. I woke up yesterday with a cold sore on my bottom lip as well; I've never had a cold sore before. Ever. I've never had symptoms of herpes in general, or not that I have noticed at least. My boyfriend and I just recently went on vacation and, to be quite frank, we had a lot of sex throughout the duration of our vacation. I know that I'm not the only girl he's slept with, however he is the only man I've gone all the way with. He was the first man I had intercourse with, yet I did have oral sex with a different man once (both giving and receiving) before my current boyfriend and I had met. My boyfriend and I both started getting symptoms at the exact same time on vacation, but we didn't really put it together until after we got home. The last two days of vacation, he only had bumps and painful urination. I had about 3 bumps (which I had assumed were just blisters from too much sex or ingrown hairs), very slightly painful urination, and back aches. The day after we arrived home is when I put everything together and realized there was a possibility we had herpes. I still have not heard anything from the doctor, but he prescribed me Acyclovir to at least start me on a treatment. This is the second day I'm on these pills and my outbreak has gotten worse. The lesions/ulcers are still on the back of my throat, on my tongue, on the inside of my lips, and I also have that cold sore. It is extremely painful to urinate, and the bumps on my vulva have multiplied and gotten so much more painful. My boyfriend is feeling miserable as well (although he has not yet gotten to his primary care doctor to check up on this). His throat is hurting to the point where he went to the ER last night to see if maybe he had severe strep throat or something. (Not strep or mono...) He has cold sweats, horrible body aches, and a nasty headache. He didn't go into too much detail so I'm not sure if he still has the bumps on his genitals or if it's still hurting him to urinate or anything. I'm writing to ask about a few things. First of all, is it normal for this outbreak to get worse even though I've been taking my medications as directed? How do you explain the fact that we're having our first outbreaks at the exact same time? Is that even possible? (He's never had symptoms of herpes before either.) We're both adamant that we did not have herpes previously, but, then again, how could we possibly know that because neither of us were ever tested. But anyways, how do we, as a couple, get past this? We're having serious problems discussing this because he is clouded by anger and I am clouded by sadness. We're both feeling disgusted and upset and just generally angry with the situation. I have not been able to stop crying. Also, my boyfriend and I first had intercourse about two months ago. How come we are only showing symptoms now? I don't understand why we are having an outbreak after two months of being sexually active, and how we are experiencing this outbreak at the same time. We've only used condoms when I'm close to ovulation. But other than that, we've used the pull-out method... could've been more careful, I know. Please help me out and talk to me, as I could really use somebody else to talk to about this.