Lioness

Thank you both Adrial and Beckie, this helps a lot! :) I also had a severe case of Bacterial Vaginosis at the same time, which is what actually made me break down and go the the doctor. It was then during an exam that they saw a herpes lesion. Because of the severity of my BV, I don't know if the herpes symptoms/sores were 'masked.' However, I do remember seeing a few tiny bumps which were very temporary, I think because I started the antiviral soon enough to prevent a full outbreak? My guess only. But the timing in all this makes sense to me. I had flu-like symptoms 2 days before I went to the doctor. It's been a month since this ordeal and so far all is good, I'm back to normal. :) But I still have no idea what to expect with my next outbreak because of the nature of my first experience. I will say I am lucky to have not contracted HSV in my earlier years. I'm almost 50 (Beckie, that is where my 'Lioness' comes from, I'm a Leo), so my experience is not typical of the average age group. I think anyway! I have accepted having HSV and feel no shame (that may be due to being older?). I just feel very sad about how my ex is choosing to totally ignore me and denying having it in the first place. Btw, we were still together when all this happened. So I am still raw with emotions, as it has been only 1 month. Who knows, maybe someday he will come around and be willing to open up and 'man up.' Right now he obviously is in denial.

Thanks Beckie, btw I was 'CountryLover' but now I'm Lioness. Unbelievable about the nurse and her lack of information! I have learned so much on here and can totally see how people are confused and/or don't want to accept and take responsibility. I wasn't aware of the 5-10% viral shedding. My ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend (who he was with exclusively before me) has oral cold sore HSV-1 and she could have very well passed it onto him. Although she said she was careful and didn't kiss him or have oral sex during an outbreak, she still could have passed it through the viral shedding. She said there was no way she could have passed it onto him. I really do feel she gave him the cold sore type 1, then he gave me genital type-1. I sent him info with links on herpes via email and he thinks it's BS. Very sad. So...a couple questions on what I'm not clear on... (1) Since there were no antibodies present in my results, does that indicate I have not previously been infected? If so, then that means I know for sure I got it from my ex-boyfriend. (2) Since I have genital type-1, does that mean I will always have outbreaks only genitally? Or could I still have cold sores/fever blisters as well?