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@jack101 @hippyherpy @hikinggirl So I told my wife about my diagnosis and it was almost a non issue. Also my friend was tested for hsv2 and her igg test came back negative. My wife has also been tested and we are waiting in results now. So if my wife is negative and my friend is negative then how the hell did I get this? I’m essentially a miracle of science if both are negative and I’m positive as those are the only people I have been with. It is what it is I guess but I’m still trying to figure out everything it seems.

I am going to tell my wife about my diagnosis tonight or tomorrow and I am having a very hard time wrapping my head around how to go over everything with her. I’m so afraid she’s going to reject me or tell me to leave and I can’t lose her or my kids it will kill me. Everyone is telling m that if I am positive that it has nothing to do with my one night stand but I’m still so nervous as to how to explain this to her. Any suggestions as to how to have this talk? Even if I’ve had it for year it is still a huge deal (even tho I have accepted I may have it and it is essentially a skin condition) I’m incredibly scared of her reaction and the changes that may take place. Any advice as always is greatly appreciated.

@Jack101 Ok so first off thank u for the information. I want to clarify a couple points if I may. 1, based on my numbers 3 doctors have told me it is likely that I already had hsv2 bc of the fact that 7 days after my incident is when I took the blood test. U are saying that u agree with that? 2, What happens if my friend has her IgG test come back positive, would the forst test still be moot bc of the 7 days? 3, if both are negative I should take the western blot test but what if my wofe is negative and my friend is positive? Is that why I should wait the 12 weeks or so to take the western blot? I'm just trying to understand my next moves here. Thanks again.

@hippyherpy @katidid @regularity @optimist @HikingGirl So I just went to the infectious disease doc and they told me that I def do have herpes 2. I guess I was hoping that I didnt still but now I know for sure. They told me that it's pretty unlikely that with my scores of 5.2 and 4.6 that I got it recently especially since my forst test was taken 7 days after my incident with my friend. I also just spoke to my friend last night and She got reaults back of an IgM test that were negative for 1 and 2. She is Still waitinf for the IgG test to come back but does that mean ots even more unlikely that I got it from her? I'm at the point where I have all of the information and I'm going to explain it to my wife, but I don't really know what my friends negative test result means. Can anyone explain that to me? I'm still having a really hard time with this all but thinking of it as esse really a skin condition does help. Ive still never had any symptoms amd when I asked the doc if I should be on an antiviral she said no, not until I have some kind of outbreak. What is everyones thoughts on that? Thanks again for all the help, talking with people on here has made this a bit easier.

@HikingGirl @optimist @hippyherpy Thank you for the information it has helped calm me down a bit. I just went and got my 2nd test completed and the reaults came back. I went down in score to a 4 but they didnt really explain to me what that means if anything. My primary care doc said he wanted me to wait longer (why I dont know) but I wanted to have 2 tests completed before I go to the infectious disease doctor tomorrow. I'm a bit nervous about that visit but I feel that this will at least give me answers to most of the questions I have. I'm still waiting for the results of my friends test to come back, so there is still the possibility of her being negative which would then mean I couldnt have gotten it from her. I'm still trying to figure out how I could have gotten it, before this incident no one other than my spouse has ever even seen me naked let alone had genital to genital contact with me. I just dont get it, but I guess I'm still a bit in denial about this whole thing. You have all been great with the information and with making me not feel judged so I cant thank you enough for the words and the support. Its is greatly appreciated.

@optimist @HikingGirl thank you both for the information. I have another blood test scheduled for the 6th of Nov which is a month after my last test. I also talked to the other person and they are going to be scheduling a test as well. I'm really hoping she comes back negative honestly. It feels so terrible to hold this in to myself until I know for sure if I'm positive and if I got it from the other person or not. Its really eating away at me and I still only sleep a couple hours each night. Did u guys struggle with that at all? I can usually fall asleep but I wake up after a few hours and then go back in and out until our alarm goes off around 6am. I think the worry is making me have a bit of night sweats so I'm not very comfortable which of course only leads to me waking up more. Plus I have anxiety issues in general so this feels like its killing me. I do have a therapist that I went back to the week after this indiscretion happened bc it wasn't planned and I care only about my family which makes this all even worse. I'm still hoping against hope that it was an issue with the test but that seems unlikely after all I have been reading. I have no idea how to go over this with my spouse that a horrible drunken mistake gave me an incurable disease. How will she ever forgive me or want me again? She ansld our family are the most important things in my life and it all will be gone. I need help.

Hey @HikingGirl thank you for welcoming me and for ur response. I've read it multiple times and would really appreciate hearing from u again. I am not sleeping at all because of this news and I really dont know What to do. I feel like I ruined my entire life with a one night encounter that was so trivial its almost laughable. I have young kids still in diapers and I feel like I just ruined their lives too as Well as my spouse. Obviously I haven't slept with my spouse since the incident bc I was waiting for teat results from the full panel I got but now I have no choice but to make everything known and possibly blow up my family which is the only thing I really care aboit in this world. Sorry to unload but I dont have anyone to talk to aboit this. I am devastated to know that the 5 score on the test means I'm definitely positive. I read another forum that a guy had a score of 8 and then was still actually negative. I wish that was the case but I'm guessing that probably isn't so. I'm going to get another test in a couple weeks which is a month after my initial test. I am a little curious about ur thoughts on the timing. In ur personal opinion how likely would it be that I would show positive after only 7 days? The other person hasnt been tested but is going on Monday. I know it might sound crazy but I'm wondering if I am positive and 7 days after exposure isnt enough time to show positive (my doc said it would be extremely rare) then where the hell did I get it from? My spouse and I have inky been with each other so is there any other way to contract hsv2? Before this incident I had never been intimate in any way with another person so I really am blown away by this and my situation. Please reapond if u can it has already helped me immensely. Thanks again.

Hey all, I just got the call from my doc who told me I tested positive for type 1 and type 2 herpes and I really dont know what to do. In being as honest as possible I need to say that I have been in a long term relationship for years and years and had only been with that person sexually in any way in my lifetime and the same goes for her. That was the case until I made a horrible drunken decision and slept with someone else unprotected. I went to the docs around a week later to get tested for everything and those came back with me showing positive for type 1 and 2 and my type 2 score was a 5. Obviously this was not something that was planned and of course the one mistake I make this happens. Thats me feeling sorry for myself when I have no right, so I guess I'll get to the questions I have about this. As I said, I went to the docs a week later at the most and my tests came back positive. Everything I have been reading says that it would take 12-16 WEEKS for the antibodies to build up enough to be detected in the blood test. I don't have any symptoms and never have so I am wondering Is this a false positive? Could the person I slept with 5 days before the test have given it to me so it would show up in a blood test? My doc said that is extremely rare so I dont know what to believe or to do. The only thing I can think is either the test is wrong or that the person ive been in a relationship for a long time with could have given it to me and it has just been laying dormant, if 5-7 days is not enough time for the blood test to show positive. I guess I'm just searching for answers and advice from others that have this, as it looks like I do as well. Anything you can share with me would be greatly appreciated. Signed, A really scared and freaked out guy