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Thanks yea I guessing I wasn’t fully healed from my first OB and maybe that’s why it hurt. I’ve had my second one already and it wasn’t that bad and the meds helped. I did tried the lube and it did help a bit though.

Is it suppose to hurt to have sex after your first OB? I’ve finished my antivirals a few days before Christmas. And I was reading it’s best to wait two weeks after finishing the antivirals to have sex again or it depends on how fast the person heals. I waited the two weeks maybe a day or two shy of it. Everything felt back to normal thank god! But when he went to put it in it hurt and burned a little. It wasn’t too unbearable. After a few strokes it went away. But when we would change positions and he had to put it back in that’s when the pain would pop back up. I was sore the next day but that slowly went away throughout the day. A few days later we tried to give it another go. The pain was still there again only when he first put it in. Is this normal? Will I be able to have sex again without the pain? Is there anything I could try to help ease the pain?

@HikingGirl thanks!! I’ll keep that in mind :)

That’s definitely another thing I’m worried about the whole sex thing. I definitely feel ashamed about my diagnosis like I loved showers before this it was like my go to. I feel sad or had a bad day I’ll take a long hot shower. And no I can’t even enjoy it. I just feel dirty I can’t even wash myself without worrying about spreading it . I can’t imagine trying to have sex anytime soon. I think he’ll be understanding about all of this but I know he’s also very sexual . So I’m a little worried he’ll turn to someone else or put more strain on this situation. But I guess that’s another way to find out if this is really something to try to hang on to. Thanks again for the advice . It’s nice to talk to other people in the same situation. I told a few of my family members and a close friend. But I’m scared if I keep talking about it with them they’ll get annoyed or something.

Thanks for the response! I finally told him last night it went better than i thought it would. but I really want to sit down and have a more in depth talk about it and ask him more questions. I told him he can run away if he wanted to I would completely understand. He was tested recently for std but I’m sure he wasn’t tested for herpes. He said he’ll get tested at his next doc visit but I wish he would go ASAP. I’ll be really happy if his came back negative I just don’t want to be the one to have passed it to him. But I guess the shitty part about this virus you never really know when or who passed it . I’ve seen some of you post and I’m impressed you blog about it almost daily and take notice to any change if you have any. Keep it up! It’s always good to see another persons perspective on things :)

Hey everyone, My results for my swab test came back yesterday and they were positive for HSV 2 and although I didn’t get swabbed in my mouth the results came back saying it was a double infection. So i guess that means I have HSV 1&2. Lucky me! My mind has been racing since I first had the swab test done. I can’t decide whether to be mad or to hate myself for not being more careful. I really wish I knew when or who pass it to me. I recently started sleeping with this new guy about two months now maybe a little less. And a part of me thinks maybe he passed it to me since I noticed the first signs of my initial OB two days after the last time we had sex. But the nurses said I could’ve had it before and that maybe my stress finally brought it out. I have to find a way to tell him and I’m pretty nervous about this. I’m afraid of what he’ll say and the other part wants me to question him and/or just end things between us. Any suggestions on how I should go about telling him? I have a few other questions about all of this as well. . . 1.) Is anyone else taking Valacyclovir 1g ? And does it make your head feel like clouded or foggy? 2.) My OB started a few days before my period and I’m almost off now. But is there any tips on making myself for my comfortable or clean while both are going on? Btw I have to use pads since the pain was too much I couldn’t imagine trying to put a tampon in. 3.) how will I know everything is back to normal down there? I feel a lot better already but still. 4.) what are the first signs of an oral OB? I’ve never had cold sores before. 5.) when does it get better?