sweet66
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@teawiththequeen i wish you the best. did you get your results yet? do what you need to go get through it, you are what i consider to be grieving the loss of who you used to be, essentially - at least that's how i felt about it. in the end i hope you both can settle in and be okay. i hope you quickly find a way to integrate this into your life, unlike i have. maybe that's my work for this year. happy holidays.
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@lifegoeson, i didn't have sex with anyone else except my ex at that point. and since this guy admitted to having it, i know it was him. i wished bad things on him for a long time. i guess i still do. i haven't made peace with it even all these years later.
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all but the hsv2 piece. when i got hsv1 i got really really sick. my neutrophil count is really low so i don't fight of infections as easily as you do. i just can't take that chance.
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thank you <3
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wow. life is funny and unexpected. glad for you.
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for those of you who have HSV1 genitally, have you noticed if there are many folks out there with the same? i've been on the dating site a couple of times but have never actually met anyone from there. i hate online dating anyway. but here's my situation. i am not actually unhealthy at the moment, i live an active life, work full time, getting back to exercising after the new year, spent a good part of this last year following a dream and it was amazing. so, just to say, i'm not a sick person. however, i have bone marrow issues and my neutrophil (one of the WBC's) count keeps dropping. this means that i am more prone to outbreaks and have to take daily valtrex. i even get breakthrough outbreaks and sometimes have to take it twice a day. i can't imagine having that talk with anyone. there is such i high chance i could infect someone else. i also hesitate to risk contracting HSV2 because i don't need one more virus to fight. if in the end i have to get a bone marrow transplant, which means they will obliterate my immune system in order to receive the transplant, i DEFINITELY don't want to invite more incurable viruses. so, in a perfect world, i would find someone who is perfect for me AND hsv1 positive. in the meantime, i stay single and try to live a full life. all tips, insight and experience welcomed.
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i have fear that who ever i disclose to will tell others. i am not dating. i'm terrified to date. but i have some health issues too that make the herpes more active chronically. it's very sad. i'm lonely, but it's too tricky a situation.
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sorry, old post. just noticed the date.
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If i'm not mistaken, Terri is no longer involved. I got a question to her right when she was about to leave. i don't know if anyone has taken over.
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what lifegoeson said. wait for the test results.
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your pictures definitely look like they could be herpes, especially given your positive swab. as i said in another post, the swab does not diagnose which type of hsv, that takes a blood test. yes, he could have given it to you in both places with his oral infection, but you can't be sure that he doesn't have it genitally either. he could, and could have been shedding. so, just to be clear, he could have given you a genital herpes infection via his mouth or his penis. and you could have gotten an oral infection via his mouth or his penis. if you are sure he gave you herpes, i don't understand why you are afraid to approach him with this. maybe it's because he's acting like he doesn't have a problem? he should actually know he has a problem so that he doesn't do this to anyone else unless the consent. hang in there.
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hi teawiththequeen. i remember so well how it felt when i first got herpes, your story brings me right back. i started dating a new person. we had sex and used a condom. but i got herpes anyway. started with a little spot genitally, then before i knew it i had sores inside my mouth and painful sores genitally and some hard bumps which i think were lymph nodes. i was so sick for so long. pale, exhausted. and i sat in the dark googling and googling, feeling so alone in the world, doing anything i could to keep busy in my dark little apartment because i didn't want to close my eyes and try to sleep, it was too emotionally painful to be quiet. however, i didn't have any fear about confronting the guy because i knew he gave it to me.. i went off on him. he admitted that he knew he had herpes and he didn't tell me. he offered to bring me medicine or anything i needed, but at that point i wanted nothing to do with him. he ruined my life, and i told him so. i was also not promiscuous. that was 11 years ago.
regarding testing, the swab will only tell you that you have herpes. western blot is the best way to diagnose hsv1, and i was almost a year in before i got a positive diagnosis. imagine that. but yes IgG and IgA are the tests you need, for each virus. one of them, i'm not sure which, tells whether the infection is new, one of them reflects antibodies developed over time. it sounds to me like he is responsible for giving it to you since your outbreak is so bad. BUT, if he doesn't have much in the way of outbreaks, he may never have looked into getting diagnosed. that said, it's possible he knows and is too much of a coward to be honest with you (i say this based on my personal experience).
i completely understand what you are going through. it's a dark place. but things will get better. if there is someone close to you that you can confide in for moral support and just to unload, i recommend that. be good to yourself, though i know that's hard to do when all you want to do is cry and take back what you did. in time you will integrate it into your mind and your life. you will be okay. i promise. much love.
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he can get it either way. there's no 100 per cent way for him to be protected. as i mentioned, we used a condom and he still gave me genital hsv1.
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has your partner been tested to see if he has hsv1?
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this is how i got herpes. i had sex with someone who had herpes, he didn't tell me. he wore a condom. oral sex was involved. i got herpes, and i got it bad. it was one of the biggest nightmares of my entire life. i can't explain exactly the logistics of how it happened, but obviously fluids and mucus membranes were involved. men are less likely to contract from women than the other way around, but it is still possible.
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i would say if there are no open sores, it's fine to visit. it's fine to hug. don't kiss her, just to be safe. it sounds like you just contracted the virus and your body is probably a little haywire right now trying to figure things out. when i contracted hsv1 i was sick for a long time, i wasn't your typical patient. knowing that things can take a while to truly settle down, i would avoid skin to skin contact. are you on suppressive therapy or just for outbreaks?
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so you want to know if you should be visiting your friend who is going through chemotherapy correct?
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my understanding is the number of outbreaks you have indicate how much shedding you are doing. so, if you've only had one outbreak (in how much time?) you are probably not shedding much.
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yes it's possible to transmit via skin to skin with an active outbreak. i am pretty sure that friction is required to transmit during shedding though so i think you would be safe there.
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yep she is amazing. she is one gutsy woman, and she hasn't been shy about how hard it's been on her. cyber bullies are heartless, shameless and relentless. i don't think i have the stomach for it. i feel for her too.
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that said, and obviously, you would want to wash your hands after using the bathroom. a compromised immune system means it is much easier for that person to contract the virus. so in that respect, i wouldn't take any chances. this is not to suggest that you don't wash your hands after the bathroom, but i just thought i'd put that out there.
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RN here. whether you have 1 or 2 makes no difference. and since your outbreak is covered up she is safe. it is not transmissible via respiratory droplets through the air, it requires skin to skin contact. it's as simple as that. also, shedding happens at the site of your outbreaks, not all over - the virus lives in the nerves and expressed in what we call dermatomes (an area of skin). you are not putting her in danger.
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and might i add in this current political climate where hate seems to be the new rage.
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Not believing HSV diagnosis -- initially told it was impetigo (bacterial skin infection)
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sometimes i think these doctors have hsv themselves and are in denial. seriously. i didn't learn anything from mine. i learned it all on my own and from folks in forums like this. it's ridiculous.