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How likely is it to get herpes while the skin on the lip is red, before the initial legion appears? Does herpes have a 100% infection rate? I am aware that the likely hood is very high when the legions burst, and the liquid is out. But what about before the sore even appears? I know there is a possibility, but is it a high one? Could it also be possible for someone to have direct contact with a sore, and not get herpes?

Thank you, everyone, all these examples are fantastic and I appreciate all of them. I love the community on this forum; both very supportive and informative. These stories have helped me feel better about this issue. It was just something I was raised to think was a terrible occurrence, and I never knew of anyone really who had it. The only person I first knew of was in elementary school, ages ago, and kids made fun of her terribly, calling her all sorts of vicious names. I think my fears are raised from preconceptions of the virus. But these stories of long relationships, playing it safe, and not contracting are very useful. Thank you. If anyone else has more to add, or stories please feel free for future readers, like myself. It may prove useful.

Yes I have gotten tested and I get tested every 5 months as per recommendation, as it takes 5 months to show in the blood. She is on the medication, although I am happy that you two responded my initial question still goes un-answered. I am looking to see if anyone on here has experienced the following: Do any of you, or do any of you know of anyone, who has, or is in, a long term relationship, or marriage, where one spouse has oral herpes, and has not transmitted to the other? Please I am looking for stories and experiences.

Hello all, I have been reading through all of your posts and find everything to be rather helpful, so I would like to share my story as to shed some background on my question. I have been with a lovely woman whom I met 8 months ago. I have never met a woman who cares about me like her, completely and unconditionally. She confessed to me that she had oral herpes 4 months into our relationship. She had only kept this from me because she didn't see oral herpes as such a big deal, until I had mentioned it in a conversation to her that same evening. She had told me she thought she got it from her host family that she baby sits, as the children, and both parents, have this. Since then I have had the upmost trouble becoming close with her, and developing the feelings I know I want to have for her. Kissing her has become an issue for me, mentally I do not show my discomfort physically or share it with her. I know my issue is only this. She has had one outbreak since I have been with her and we both abstained from kissing until the sore was completely healed. She is also on preventive medication which reduces her percentage of shedding. My question is this: I see myself spending many years with this woman, and I know that. But I am having trouble continuing and developing emotionally because of the herpes that she has, which is always on my mind. Do any of you, or do any of you know of anyone, who has, or is in, a long term relationship, or marriage, where one spouse has oral herpes, and has not transmitted to the other? I am not a shallow person, I educated myself well on herpes, and that has not changed my opinion of her in anyway. But it is complicating me on an emotional level. Please share your stories, I would like to know. I cannot find any examples of my question on the internet and the community here seem very supportive, mature, and informative.