I guess I'll start by saying I'm newly 18 years old so I'm a lot younger than most people I have seen on here.
I'm still a little bit in shock by this because I didn't get herpes through vaginal sex, I got it through oral sex which I didn't even know was possible until reading this forum (things I wish I would've known)
My boyfriend gets canker sores when he's stressed sometimes but he's never gotten more than 1 a year and he's gone many years without one. He didn't even know that was herpes and I didn't know the risks behind it because I had never known him having one and we've been together since February of 2016 and we've known each other since 2014.
Anyway, about 2 weeks ago we were just messing around and he just jokingly kissed my labia a few times. About a week after that he got a canker sore (he's stressed about going back to college), and I didn't think anything of it. Turns out, he gave me hsv 1 in that one time, or possibly before that but I have a feeling that's when he did because we are not currently sexually active, and this is the first time we've done anything remotely sexual since October. We always had protected sex, and he tested negative for hsv2 but obviously has hsv1 in his mouth but not his genitals. I tested positive for hsv1.
My question is because my first outbreak started about 4 days ago and I've had these tiny white bumps in 2 places and there's only about 4 or 5 of them in each place. When should I expect these to grow or change, or will they even do anything else at all? I'm not entirely sure but I feel like I have it mildly because I only have mild discomfort and it hasn't gotten any worse in almost 5 days. He was surprisingly pretty supportive but feels a lot of guilt because this one moment of being ignorant about something has changed my life forever, so if you have any tips about how I can try and make him feel better please let me know. I'm not close to my parents so this has just been between us. I cried a little bit earlier today because it finally feels real, but after reading this forum for hours today I feel a lot better. It's literally just a glorified very contagious skin condition and I really wish that better education about herpes was offered because this could've been avoided.
That's all I can really think of, I'll see if I can think of anything else later
Thank you