banan

Yeah... Unfortunately in my experience people don't care much about any of those statistics or realities. They get so freaked out about the idea of there being any amount of a chance that they can't get past it. It really sucks.

According to https://www.umm.edu/health/medical/reports/articles/herpes-simplex, "To infect people, the herpes simplex viruses (both HSV-1 and HSV-2) must get into the body through tiny injuries in the skin or through a mucous membrane, such as inside the mouth or on the genital area. Both viruses can be carried in bodily fluids (such as saliva, semen, or fluid in the female genital tract) or in fluid from herpes sores. The risk for infection is highest with direct contact of blisters or sores during an outbreak."

There are some places online that say it can be transmitted through fluids but I have not understood how that could happen. He read that somewhere though so is all freaked out.

I contracted HSV-2 a year ago. I have been on Valtrex since then and after my first (terrible) outbreak, I have not had anything beyond a couple very minor outbreaks (like I could barely even tell). I am still confused about the risks of transmitting it to someone else while I have no symptoms. I know the risk is very low while on Valtrex and using condoms. But is there still some risk? Some of my partners or potential partners have still thought that 1% chance is too high. In particular, I have one partner who has recently (after we have slept together many times, for several months) decided he is not that OK with having intercourse anymore. Even though I have not had any outbreaks and we always use protection. And he usually leaves his underwear on, so there is little to no actual skin contact. He is still afraid that he could catch it from my fluids. Is that even a possibility? Any advice or knowledge would be very appreciated. Thanks!