lindseyy

I’m so sorry you have to go through this. I know exactly how you feel. I was so afraid that no one would want to be with me after getting this. I’m 21 so I know how sad it is to think that this is it, and no one is going to want to put them self at risk. I’ve found that people aren’t as judgemental as we think they’re going to be. I haven’t had to disclose to a partner yet, but I have told a few friends and family members. They don’t look at me any differently and it can really happen to anyone. It’s so common and most people who have HSV are completely unaware they have it. I know it might be hard to believe right now but the right person will be able to look this past this. The reality is that the chance of transmission is so small (with condoms and antivirals) that there’s a greater chance of dying in a car accident than there is of you passing this on. I’m sorry you’re having a bad outbreak. Mine was awful too but it will go away soon and recurrent outbreaks aren’t nearly as bad, some people never even have another one. I promise it gets better. I’ve had this for 4 months and I hardly even think about it anymore.

I’ve recently started seeing this guy that I’ve known forever and we both really like each other. There’s always been a lot of chemistry between us and I was so happy when he finally decided to make the first move. He’s such a sweet and genuine person, and unlike any guy I’ve ever dated. We’ve been seeing each other for about a week and I haven’t disclosed to him yet. I’m nervous of being rejected, but I’m more afraid that even if he does accept HSV I’ll end up giving it to him. I know that the transmission rates are really low with condoms and antivirals (which I’m taking) but I would feel so awful if I gave this to him. Being diagnosed was absolutely devastating for me and I would never want to put someone else through that, especially him. Does anyone have any advice on how to get over this anxiety of transmission?

@dudereally thank you so much for responding! I know that I’m making a bigger deal out of this than it really is. I’ve actually told a few friends about it and they’ve all been really supportive and understanding. I know that I’m a great person and the right guy will be able to look past this, I just get so nervous thinking about having to disclose. You give some great advice though and you’ve really made me feel a lot better

Hey guys I was diagnosed with HSV2 about 3 months ago and I wanted to share my story. I got it from this guy that I’ve known for a while but he was dating this other girl so we were always just friends. After they broke up he started flirting with me and we ended up sleeping together. About 3 days later l was in so much pain, and when I looked down there I saw so many blisters. My heart sank because I immediately knew it was herpes. My first outbreak was so painful I seriously was crying from the pain like 3 times a day. The guy who gave it to me completely stopped talking to me, and ignored me every time I reached out to him. Turns out I was just a rebound from his break up. This was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through. The physical pain was excruciating, and I’ve never felt so used and disgusted with myself. Not only was I just diagnosed with herpes but I got it from someone who clearly doesn’t care about me at all. It’s the biggest mistake I’ve ever made. I’m only 21 and the thought of having to live with this forever makes me so upset. People my age (especially guys) are so immature and I don’t think a lot of them would be able to look past this, or even bother to educate themselves about it. I know that I’m still the same person I was before the diagnosis, but I’m just scared that as soon as I disclose to someone they’ll just see me as “the girl with herpes” :(