[Feeling Optimistic: Successful Disclosure Story]

@PhillyChick...sure that would be great. I will definitely PM you. Thanks so much :)

[Casual sex and my first disclosure...]

@Dave and @anette14_99..I agree with you both...no one discloses before kissing yet it seems like there is a huge pressure to disclose before sex due to HSV2. Its such a double standard...smh. @anette14_99...I think your nurse friend may be on to something..even tho many might not like her thoughts, I can see her point of view.

[2 very different disclosures]

I loved your honesty and how you were brave enough to share with us in this forum that you did not disclose to that one guy. We are all humans and we all make mistakes, and we all know disclosing is very difficult...so I do understand. The good part is that you corrected your mistake and you learned from it and that's what life is about..learning and growing...so kudos to you. Hopefully you would not be attacked by judgmental or self-righteous people for your mistake.

[Feeling Optimistic: Successful Disclosure Story]

@PhillyChick, I must say that your disclosure is the best example that I have come across..I love it! I am also a Black female, 41 years who recently contracted HSV2 from my ex-boyfriend who didn't know he had it (just like you @secondchances) and as you @PhillyChick accurately stated "dating is hard enough as a 40+ Black female and then add H to it..smh! Being new to this world I am trying to learn as much info about disclosing and I am so thankful that you included the details to your disclosure. I liked your opening line and how you mentioned about being authentic and vulnerable and I especially liked how you said you "have the virus that causes genital herpes" vs blurting out that you have HERPES. I have read somewhere that is it recommended to phrase it in the manner you did and I think that is a great suggestion. Also I liked your brave ending--giving him an option to ask questions or take time to think. I will use your main points as a guide for my disclosure so thank you so much for sharing and I am so happy that it worked out with your guy.

 

P.S. I have a personal question for you...hopefully you wont mind answering it. Is the guy you disclosed to black as well?