@PhillyChick, I must say that your disclosure is the best example that I have come across..I love it! I am also a Black female, 41 years who recently contracted HSV2 from my ex-boyfriend who didn't know he had it (just like you @secondchances) and as you @PhillyChick accurately stated "dating is hard enough as a 40+ Black female and then add H to it..smh! Being new to this world I am trying to learn as much info about disclosing and I am so thankful that you included the details to your disclosure. I liked your opening line and how you mentioned about being authentic and vulnerable and I especially liked how you said you "have the virus that causes genital herpes" vs blurting out that you have HERPES. I have read somewhere that is it recommended to phrase it in the manner you did and I think that is a great suggestion. Also I liked your brave ending--giving him an option to ask questions or take time to think. I will use your main points as a guide for my disclosure so thank you so much for sharing and I am so happy that it worked out with your guy.
P.S. I have a personal question for you...hopefully you wont mind answering it. Is the guy you disclosed to black as well?