Thank you all for sharing these experiences. I am a 64 year old female, divorced and single for the first time in years and now dating online. I have had herpes for 35 years. I was married for 30 years to a man who I disclosed that had herpes to before we had sex and he was fine with it. We stopped having sex in the last few years and I never cheated. So, I did not have sex. We just ended the marriage last fall. So wow, a whole new world and of course I have to deal with disclosure.