Your post broke my heart. That’s how I felt when I was first diagnosed though I was married. Now years later, I found myself single with this dirty secret I was deathly ashamed of.
But guess what? The first guy I hooked up with totally cool with it. Like no pause. Had sex right after I told him and we are still hooking up four months later and he doesn’t want to use protection anymore (I’m the deciding factor, still working out my feelings about it) and I told my best friend who said “oh yeah it’s super common.” This evil secret that made me feel like a leper all these years doesn’t have power over me.
Honestly I've come to a peaceful acceptance of it. My thoughts are: we have a bullshit don’t ask don’t tell policy of herpes in the medical community. People aren’t encouraged to be tested and then 90% of people who have it don’t know. So we are left to be the responsible educators. It’s so common. If someone doesn’t want to hook up with get into a relationship with someone with an incredibly common skin issue that 1 in 8 Americans have (1 in 5 women) then cool, but you are going to miss out on some great people 🤷🏻♀️ and I don’t have time to feel bad about myself.