Im a newbie at this too but I just wanted to say I'm so glad I found this site and its so refreshing to be able to talk openly about this and just feel totally at ease and not judged!! You ladies are great and I wish you all the best. P.s my first and only o.b so far lasted 3 PAINFUL weeks!! And I totally understand the whole "walking on eggshells!" thing I feel the same way! Although everyday is getting a lil easier, the word "Herpes" itself is never far from my mind. Its only been a month since all this started for me so I'm sure it will get easier with time and as I start to figure out its triggers and warning signs, that will make it easier too! :) keep up the kindness, were sort of a team now and we gotta have each others backs! :)