aimee

Thank you Adrial, I was not seeing that perspective at all, looking at it like that makes total sense.

Meeting in person? over the phone? or by text? I found out I had herpes approx a yr ago and came to terms with it fairly quickly as I process quickly. I've only disclosed once before and was rejected, I was sad but not heartbroken as he was younger and I knew long term things probably wouldn't have worked because of the age difference. Really no biggie. I've now met someone new, I like him but I'm not head over heels, we seem to have a lot in common, well things have progressed and I've already slept with him (protected of course) as it was one of those in the moment situations after a few drinks. I don't feel terrible I'm actually feeling pretty neutral about it but I would like to disclose to him fairly quickly. I read one of the threads on here about disclosing in a personal place (your home etc) or a neutral place? and it seemed like everyone has their own personal preference? The last time I disclosed it came up in a text conversation and he asked the std question, I was thankful it was by text and told him I wanted to tell him in person, he then said he was thankful it was by text as well as he would have felt uncomfortable in person. Is text a terrible way to disclose? My feeling is it gives the person space and processing time and I guess the convenience of never having to face you again (if that's what they want?) Is it too easy of a way out? What do you think?