sunshine367

I've never had a cold sore in or around my mouth, lips, nothing. I'm in my 30s and just found out I have hsv2 only. Can I makeout with someone and not have to worry about passing anything? If there's nothing present and I don't have hsv1, I'm good right ? I just feel like oral and intercourse is going to be off the table for awhile as I don't have a serious, stable partner but I would really miss making out and kissing too :( help.

This is beautiful. You are beautiful. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I am in a dark place since finding out recently and I really don't want to let this consume me anymore. I am so glad I read this. 💕 hugs.

So I did not know at the time I was having my first "outbreak" (it was one little spot almost right in my perineum area) anyway, I was fingered on Wednesday. I noticed the spot Thursday (next day) . He washed his hands after fingering me.....do I now have to worry he's going to get a blister or "outbreak" on his fingers ? I know it sounds crazy but idk if the virus can live on hands or since now finding out I have hsv2 if it's just genital to genital or genital to mouth ? I'm just confused by hsv1 & hsv2 and how they can be spread ect....

Hello ...so I'm in a bit of a crazy time in my life. Recently divorced after 10 years and well, let's just say I've been having a bit too much fun. I'm in my 30s and feel very confident in my body, well that was up until this week when I got the news. Little background here... Guy1 I have been sleeping with since February. See him every 4-6weeks Guy2 I've been sleeping with here and there July, Aug, Sept. Guy3 I met in August and slept with 3 times in August. Last time being aug25 then he ghosted. I ran into him in public 2 weeks later and he acted really weird towards me, like I was a stranger. Now please don't judge 🙈 I slept with Guy1 Sept 8th and Guy2 Sept 9th... Wednesday Sept 13th I had a gyno appointment for complete testing. (Had it scheduled since early August) just because I know I haven't been safe and I was really wanting to make some life changes and make sure I was ok and end all this meaningless sex. THURSDAY Sept 14th the next day after I get tested (swab, blood work) I noticed a small red irritation on my vagina that wasn't there before and never seen. So I went in next day for an exam. Sure enough, my gyno said...oh honey I think it might be _____.... & that moment I'll never forget. All weekend I thought well doctors can still be wrong, its just a visual. We'll see what the actual swab is going to say. Even though I was still freaking out. She did a swab on the spot and blood work. Tuesday this week I got the news that I am positive for hsv2. Everything else is negative at least. I know I haven't been safe but this is driving me insane now because I messed up and was sleeping with 2 of them so close together....& I feel it could be either of them that have given this to me Sept 8 & 9th and my first "outbreak" being on Sept 14th (since that would make the most sense ..5/6 days later, both unprotected) SO ....guy 1 I called and had a talk with. I said I want you to know I got checked I have a spot there and I am positive ect ect and he said he will now get tested and that he has no symptoms. (I'll never know if this is true or not, but he did not deny he has another partner(s) .... I am on the fence about if I should talk to guy2 or not ... someone gave it to me and truly they don't know or someone isn't going to the Dr and taking care of themselves.. OR could it be the guy that ghosted and is acting all weird? The night I ran into him I texted him and said hey it was nice seeing you but I'm not sure what happened here...( he didn't respond) SO did he find out and give it to me and is now not responding? I have no idea and probably never will. I know in these situations it's very hard to pinpoint who and when. I've been obsessing and it's been consuming my life. My BIG question is and I really hope someone can shed some light... COULD IT BE POSSIBLE if....guy2 gave it to me on Friday (he would have to have an active outbreak or be in the phase to pass it on to me right?) & nothing showed up on me yet and Saturday when I saw guy1 I truly couldn't have spread it to him because it had only been 24 hours since being in contact with maybe the one that spread it? Idk if that's how that works or not......but I don't want to have to talk to guy2 if truly I got it the next day Saturday from guy1. I'm sorry this is so confusing and a mess I just am really trying to narrow this down. In the end I guess it doesn't matter. I have it. And someone didn't tell me or doesn't know or whatever the case. Guy1 (the only one I told) said he's going to get tested and he feels awful. OK but if it's new, his blood work will probably come back negative because mine did. And if he has no infection then will I know it wasn't him? 😟🤯 Help...please...