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@iwanthope We were waiting to have children so we always used condoms. He doesn’t think that I recently got it, he thinks that he got lucky and avoided getting it. We are still working out the separation but he is not changing his mind. We are sleeping in separate bedrooms and haven’t been intimate since my diagnosis. I was very sad at first but time lessens the emotions in most cases. Either way, I'm continuing with daily life and moving forward. I don’t think I’ll be interested in dating for a long while. It’s okay to be alone. Thank you for the well wishes!

Hey there. New to this. Recently diagnosed with HSV 2 after an outbreak. I was asymptomatic as I didn’t know I had it and I don’t know where it came from. I do know it didn’t come from my husband and he recently tested negative. He has decided to leave me. I’m feeling more alone now than ever. I’m 37 female in SC. Looking to talk and hopefully uplift each other / help get through all this.

Hi all. My husband went for an HSV blood test and he came back negative. After about two weeks he decided that he wanted to end our marriage. He doesn’t want to risk being intimate with me again now knowing this H diagnosis. I’m grieving this loss, sad, shocked. I’m just taking it day by day but hoping to connect with an H buddy around my age / female. This had all been such a whirlwind. Life can change so drastically in such a short amount of time.

Hello @AlliKat12 I appreciate your response and upbeat attitude! It is great to know that you had healthy pregnancies and children after diagnosis. Hello @mr_hopp thank you for responding and creating this forum/site. I see it has helped / is helping so many people! Thank you for sharing the article about hsv and pregnancy. I really appreciate how you provide facts and solid information on this forum! I’m going to spend some more time going through the guides and ebook on the website too. It has been almost a week since my diagnosis and I’m still down. My husband seemed supportive in the beginning but he is going through his own stages. I think he’s a bit more angry than at first. He plans to go get tested this week. I just can’t imagine how he should feel if the first partner he had relations with (me) and chose to marry (me), ended up giving him an incurable sexual virus. I have fears of him never wanting to have sex again or just plain up leave me. I am starting therapy next week to cope with all of this. I feel sad for myself but mostly guilt that I probably gave this to my husband. I just wish I would have knew before we met. At this point it’s just a waiting game and the future doesn’t feel so hopeful anymore.

Hello, first I would like to say that I’m glad this page exists because this is really hard to deal with. I am 37 F and I don’t recall ever being infected / showing symptoms. However, I recently suffered an outbreak on my genitals and was diagnosed with HSV 2. I have been married for 3 years and with this same partner for 4 years. There is no way it came from him because he was not sexually active prior to us meeting. So, I must have contracted the virus prior to our relationship. This also means I likely gave him the virus even though he hasn’t shown any symptoms so far. When I told him my diagnosis he was sad/upset but says that we will get through it together. I feel guilty that I may have given this to him and obviously wish things were different. I am posting here for a few reasons - 1. Hoping to find someone in a similar situation so that we can relate/perhaps support each other. 2. We were planning to try for a child somewhat soon. Given my age I’m not sure if that would have been an easy road but now I feel even worse about it. I read that HSV 2 doubles the risk for autism and can cause even worse complications. I would like to hear from other women who have the same diagnosis and also had successful child births. Or any adverse stories just so that I know what I may be getting into. Ive spent the last couple days feeling sad, heartbroken, damaged, uncomfortable, and overall down. Not sure how to pick myself out of this ditch I’m in but maybe that just takes time. Any help / guidance would be appreciated.