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  1. Hello and welcome! 👋 First, download the e-book and handouts and read through them: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook Then here’s a helpful video/article: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/the-herpes-talk-and-your-perspective There’s tons more where that came from, but those are great starting points!
  2. Yes, read up on viral shedding here: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/herpes-asymptomatic-viral-shedding
  3. Thanks man, I get the frustration. And that frustration can totally be transmogrified into golden teachable moments, for sure. Use it as fuel for positive change. Here's a classic example of that when my best friend's fiance made a herpes joke out of the blue after dinner: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/herpes-stigma-how-to-become-bulletproof
  4. We are all H Opp, my friend. 😉 You make it sound like that is H Opp’s official stance, but it’s not. I certainly don’t hold that stance. And I’d love to see you hang around and school some folks on the equal opportunity nature of HSV instead of bowing out. If you don’t like the stance that people are coming in with, help them change their minds in a kind and supportive way. I can’t always police everyone’s viewpoint here, so I’d love the help!
  5. My pleasure! They say to wait at least 3 months before getting a blood test to allow time for the antibodies to build up to detectable levels, so 9 months is plenty to get a conclusive result. But to get a clearer result, get the Western Blot. The IgG can give a lot of false negatives and positives.
  6. Have you gotten those nose/cheek pimples swabbed and tested to make absolutely sure they're herpes? That'd be super helpful to get a definitive test since HSV-2 is unlikely to show up in those areas except for in some rare cases like folks with compromised immune systems.
  7. An index value of less than 1.1 is negative and yes, any testing facility will give you the numbers whether you're negative or positive. Here are a few helpful articles on this: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/herpes-test http://www.ashasexualhealth.org/herpes-testing-work/
  8. Aw, that’s awesome! There isn’t any data around genital HSV-1 transmission, but you can assume a few things based on genital HSV-2 transmission and what we know about viral shedding rates. There would be a 5% chance of transmitting genital HSV-2 to her if you are on suppressive therapy and want to go unprotected. Genital HSV-1 shedding rates are about 1/5 of genital HSV-2 — see all the facts in the handouts here: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook — so it’s safe to assume there is much less of a chance of transmission. Some experts like Terri Warren have said that they don’t think it can even be transmitted genitally (over 50% of all genital HSV-1 cases are from oral sex). Some other helpful facts to put these risks in perspective is that unintended pregnancy with condoms carries about a 2-15% risk per year and the risk of dying in a car accident is about 2% per year (morbid, I know, but drives home the point that we take on much bigger risks every day without even considering it). Now go enjoy yourself. It sounds like something beautiful is happening. 🙂
  9. For the first 6 months to a year, your body is busy building up antibodies to help suppress the virus naturally so yes, the closer to the day you get herpes the less natural defenses you will have. But antivirals will still cut the transmission rate in half. I'm assuming you've disclosed to her? How did that go down and what are her feelings about it?
  10. Hey there and welcome! Quick answers to your questions: 1. When you disclose to potential partners, then you are both sharing the responsibility of doing your best to not pass it. And if you do, of course it's disappointing, but it's not the end of the world. They were informed initially of the risk and they made an adult decision to take on that risk. And getting herpes while in a loving partnership after being informed and given a choice is a much different experience than getting herpes unknowingly or via lies/deceit. 2. A lot of the stuff out there that tries to scare you about passing herpes to your child is really extreme, to the point of being a bit too much. Yes, worst case scenario if you happen to get a genital outbreak before going into labor, then you would need to get a C-section. But other than that, the risk of passing herpes to your child via viral shedding is very small. 3. I would shake off this being a mark of your past sin, sister. 😉 It does you no good to make this into your own scarlet letter. Learn from it and grow from this experience. Allow it to make you an even better and more loving person than you were before. That is how to transform what you may have thought of as a sin into an opportunity. Ultimately, it is what you make it. Your perception of this will impact you way more than the actual virus ever will. We all make mistakes and hindsight is always 20/20. Don't use that as leverage to self-judge and put yourself down. Learn to forgive yourself and love yourself. Start now. Here's a recording I made to help you on the path toward radical self love: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/radical-view-on-self-love
  11. Genital HSV-1 is harder to transmit to partners than genital HSV-2 for a few reasons: HSV-1 prefers to be in the mouth region, not the genitals, so it sheds much less (3-5% for genital HSV-1 vs 15-30% for genital HSV-2 vs 9-18% for HSV-1 oral) — download the handouts here for a full breakdown: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook Most people already carry HSV-1 because most people get cold sores, so they already have antibodies that will be another line of defense against contracting it (does your partner get cold sores and has s/he been tested lately for HSV?) If you're taking suppressive medication, then that cuts viral shedding in half (if you use condoms, that cuts the risk in half yet again) So be careful with your partner, but don't be paranoid. 🙂
  12. With suppressive therapy and no protection, there is a 2% chance of HSV-2 transmission per year (similar risk of getting pregnant while using protection). But since you have HSV-1, that risk will be much lower since the shedding rate is much lower for genital HSV-1 (since it prefers to camp out orally). Check out the handouts for all these helpful data points summarized: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/lp/ebook Here’s another recent post:
  13. Can you describe what you think is an outbreak? The outbreaks themselves with sores can be painless for folks; it’s when the sores break open and then start scabbing over where the stinging and itching tends to get more pronounced.
  14. Absolutely. There are really only 2 reasons to be on suppressive therapy. To keep partners from getting herpes and if your outbreaks are frequent and/or severe. Here’s an article I wrote about it: https://www.herpesopportunity.com/post/herpes-medication
  15. Because 80% of the people who are carriers of HSV don't know they have it. Knowledge is certainly the first and best line of defense to keep partners safe.
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